Being taken advantage of...

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I was taken advantage of once by a woman a couple of years ago. I learned my lesson quickly, and never again. But it also helped teach me to treat whoever I'm in a relationship with with a great deal of respect. But if that respect it not returned it may not be a very lengthy relationship. I'm very big on the idea of equal partners.

Women these days (often) assume that all guys are just jerks who want to use them, because a lot of guys are. Gives the rest of us a bad name.

Agreed. I just tend to get mixed up with the bad ones.

I never understood the 'bad boy' appeal any more than I would want to go out with a woman who's generally a douchebag.

Can you explain this tendency?

He's not really the 'bad boy' type, just an arrogant ass. I tend to go for the "fictional bad boy" in movies, books, ect. but in real life it's a turnoff. I don't really understand it either.

PS: I can't type worth a crap today.

You're welcome!

Well, to be fair, I'm not sure that's much better.

I know it's not any better.

bad boys =/= douchebag.
real bad boys are so sexy, riding motorcycles, being in control and all that. *sigh~

Apologies if I've offended you, 'twas not my intention.

Damon from Vamp Diaries FTW.

Jack Bauer, ftw.

In my experience most real life 'bad boys' are far less in control than they seem, which is one of the reasons I never understood it - A lot of people just can't seem to see past the top level facade.



Vampires. *sigh*

There might be some sort of primitive appeal to a "bad boy," in that a woman might mistake that for a person who will keep her safe from the big bad world. I once read an article in a teen magazine that really impressed me. She addressed this same issue, and said that the only case where it's alright to be attracted to a bad boy type, is when they are being that way on behalf of their girlfriend. In other words, they are quick to defend their girlfriend from some oaf who doesn't understand personal boundaries, or to support her in a situation where she is being otherwise disrespected or taken advantage of. Under no circumstances is it ever acceptable for the bad boy to treat HER badly!

Having said that, I used to be very attracted to this type. Once, years ago, I was out clubbing with my bad boy. He had gone to speak to some friends and left me alone at our table. A guy came over and said something inappropriate to me. I reported this to my boyfriend, and he promptly invited this guy outside for a severe ass kicking. That was a happy memory! But on the darker side, this same guy would get abusive and jealous with me. If he had only reserved his abusive behavior for defending me, it might have been OK.

Hope that helped!

they're sexy in theory, but i'd take my nice-guy boyfriend over them anyday.
he's more in control than anyone i've ever met, but he's so chilled out and lovely at the same time.
finally learnt that he's better than any sexy tattooed, angry guy.

I absolutely understand the desire for a protector, but a true fighter/warrior can control his violent side...Especially when it comes to the ones he loves. Any guy who can't gets no respect from me and I've stepped between more than one woman and an abusive boyfriend (Some women get weird though and decide to suddenly protect the guy who was just beating on them. That's when it gets complicated)

Agreed.



I agree with this too.