Do aspie adults have a difficulty in "growing up"?

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I'm sixteen and I'm scared that I'm getting more juvenile and reliant by the second. I want to study abroad to get away from my family, but I'm not nearly independent enough for that.
How does one go about cultivating independence? I don't even know where to start.

Wasn't Peter Pan an Aspie?

How do we know if he is?

Child labour is illegal where I live.

Whenever I see this thread, I think of this.

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Well, I basically figured WHAT'S THE USE!?!?!? They ought to make it ILLEGAL, at least in the US! NO standards! NO guarantee of credit elsewhere! They base things off a point you may be behind, or AHEAD of! And they keep raising the price and offering less. At least less of what you are SUPPOSED to get.

They did a study in the US recently and determined that the first 2 years are generally WASTED!



Well, at least in the US, a lot of THOSE aren't great either. I figured I would study on my own.



Yeah, IRONIC! College has gotten SO bad that HIGH SCHOOL got worse TOO! The requirements haven't really increased, education has DECREASED so a bachelors now is where highschool used to be. And you're right about the senseless classes. One my college wanted everyone to take was about SOCIAL relations, I forget the real name, but it was supposed to cover religion and their customs(SHE was WRONG! I knew a LOT of people in three of the major religions, and was raised in effectively two of them. SHE WAS WRONG!) Communication where she was WRONG, and plenty of related WRONG things.

She was ALSO WRONG about ELECTRONICS(My first major interest) and WRONG about COMPUTERS(My second major interest, and my CAREER!). And she said everyone else hated her because SHE was teaching electronics and computers for them. *****WRONG*****! Oh, and I keep saying "SHE". YEP, she was the ONLY one in the entire college that "taught" this "class". She claimed she was the only one that COULD!



I had the SAME problem. Just go over streets, then pick simple freeways, and GET USED TO IT!



Actually, you can get basic insurance, at least in the US, for a moddest cost. AND, when you have been driving for like 3 years, and are over 25 yo, the price DROPS! If you take/took drivers ed in highschool you can get a better rate. A cheaper more sedate car is cheaper.



You shouldn't wait for ever. Carpe diem!



Well, I have some of the same trepidations. NOW I don't!

Ah! One of the most Aspie characteristics! Out of all of them THIS should be atleast in the top 3!! !! ! I'm going to be 25 on March 29th and countless times my parents have told me to grow up. I'm also scared of the future. I'm doing online classes now but I'm not sure if I can do online classes forever I have to do classroom settings some time!! ! I also went back to college at 24 so it'd be a shock since also I screwed up and got kicked out of college in the past so I'm honestly lucky to be able to be back in college. I have also not learned to drive either. I know where each of you are coming from. Man I love Wrongplanet!! !

Honestly, who wants to grow up? Being an adult sucks. Being an adult that has trouble meeting others expectations is emotionally devastating. I'm not saying we need lower expectations - perhaps just a bit of understanding. Our challenges may makes us 'child-like' but many of us are just as capable, and some even more so, than those with no developmental issues at all.

In a child it is called innocence, in an adult it is called naivety. Those passing those judgements, I call jaded.

You just need to score your own game (and be honest with the scoring)

I'm in my 30's, married with 2 kids and 2 degrees. I still always feel like a child compared to others. I started driving recently but always felt like it was something other people did (grown ups), helping other people is also for the grown ups.

I don't understand what you mean.

I mean adjust your expectations to meet your own timetables rather than that of society. Delay appears to be a feature of AS. As long as you are trying to improve and honest about where you are, don't sweat the judgement of society.

Grow up? Why would anyone ever want to grow up and be like all those cynical adults out there? I am 60 years old myself and am still a kid at heart.

Speaking of driving, I didn't want to learn to drive either but secretly yearned to learn to fly (which I never did). My mom finally forced me to get behind the wheel at age 16 in Texas where the learner's age was 14 at the time and became so distraught one time that she caused me to freeze up and drive right into another car. After that I refused to drive at all until my dad forced me to do so and to get my license a year later at age 17. I loved driving motorcycles during my early 20s (even though I never learned to ride a bicycle until age 16) but these days get no thrill out of driving and even manage to put no more than 4000 miles on my car each year. They always wear in general out before the mileage gets them.

I'm 35 now, and am still going through the life changes of a 17 year old. I still cannot decide what the f**k to do with my life. My only LTR was with a woman with about a 75 IQ. I call the people I meet "Sir' or "Mame", even if they are 15 years my junior. I still cannot talk to a woman who is attractive and eligable without stammering. I have yet to make a vocational, romantic or financial decision that didnt blow up in my face. My only light at the end is that my life is changing rapidly, much like a person in their late teens/early 20s. My lifelong desire is to be responsible, mature, and independent, and i've persued this since age 18 with great frustration. I'm gonna either have to learn to grow up, or grow more comfortable with the idea of being a middle-aged manchild.

Sorry, folks...methinks I'm guilty of threadicide . Pity party at my place is hereby canceled.

What IS growing up, anyway? Is it a special feeling that you experience, where you cross a certain mental boundary and then suddenly certain things outside of your control happen to lock you into a certain way?

I don't know what Grown Up is. All I know is, I'm "supposed" to be, but I have no idea what to do.

Apparently "Grown up" means getting married and having kids and trumps all other accomplishments of 'adulthood'...