Blaming all your physical & emotional issues on having A

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The only things I blame on my condition is:-
-getting this strange, depressed feeling when routine is changed
-extreme phobia of sudden loud noise
-very sensitive ears (even when my ears are blocked up!)
-letting my special interests take over my life (although I don't blame what I'm obsessed with on my condition)
-being bored, confused, overwhelmed or anxious in social situations (although some NTs may experience these feelings too, but I still associate my feelings of this on my condition)
-exhibiting this strange type of Agoraphobia (not typical Agoraphobia, but an anxious feeling of doing anything what I know stranger are watching me, eg, taking off my jacket in public, tying my hair back, ect)
-extremely self-aware and self-conscious, yet clueless on how to behave ''normally'' (not sure if this is a symptom or not, but I still blame this on AS and/or Dyspraxia, since it is linked to social cues, and is also linked on how aware you are with your body actions and motor skills)

I can't think of any more.
I've got HAD (high anxiety disorder), but I don't like to blame this on having AS condition. The anxiety actually gets in the way of everything I do in life, more so than any of these AS symptoms.
I also don't know whether to blame my anger and depression on AS or not. I haven't got depression as such, but I sometimes get this feeling where I feel really bored with my life yet am too unconfident to change my life, and I get set in a rut and feel all lonely and begin to hate myself more than I generally do. I also feel like I can't be bothered to smile and laugh when I'm in a room full of people, and sometimes I find it hard to keep expression on my face. Not sure if this is depression.
I think I blame the black and white thinking on AS, but I don't quite know what that means exactly. Is it another words for ''I'm stubborn on this and nothing's going to make me change my mind.''

With the sensitive ears thing - I only have sensitive ears because I listen out too much and I'm too alert. If I shut the noises out (which I cannot do), I wouldn't get so wound up by background noise. NTs get confused with me, because when somebody walks in a room above me, it hurts my ears, and people always say, ''it's not loud!'' and I say, ''I know it's not loud. It's not loud at all, but the tone or the pitch of it hurts my ears in a different way what I can't describe. It doesn't hurt my ears in the same way as it would at a concert - it hurts them in a different way.''

I never blame seasickness on having AS either. Every NT I know who have been on a boat have said they had at least felt a bit sick.

The only things I blame AS on:
- Telling people they talk too loud, or to keep quiet
- Having awkward facial expressions
- Spending too much time on my obsessions
- Not being able to think when there's a lot of things going on
- Getting irritable when something unexpected happens
- My schizoid personality
- Sucking at sports or anything athletic

I've just discovered that a lot of people on WP keep inventing new physical features to Autism, ones in which I have never, ever heard of and is freaking me out (I'm not talking about anything to do with the previous posts on this thread. I'm just saying).
I'm just going to go along with what I was originally diagnosed with - I'm not going to start looking all over my body and blaming the amount of moles I have on having AS, or anything else like that. I am born as me, ASD or no ASD. I am keeping to the symptoms what are really there, like my anxieties, sensory issues, special interests, and ect. Maybe my posture - that again, I wasn't born with this posture, it's just the way I hold myself.

I know this is going to cause arguments to new posters, but I just have to say it - some of the Aspies on WP are trying desperately to associate Autism to a real physical disorder (like Cerebral Palsy) so it can appear 100% different so you can feel that that you are born different.

I never thought that up - I copied and pasted it from someone else on another thread. That person was probably brought up to know that their diagnosis is just a mental disorder in the brain, not genetically physical.

I have no idea if this is AS but I have a really hard time listening and focusing on what someone is saying because I am so absorbed into something it's hard to get my attention off it and listen to the person for a few minutes. I just don't want to be bothered and I know it's an autism thing to not wanting to be bothered when you are in the middle of something but isn't anyone like that to a degree? My parents have been that way when they be in the middle of something important like taxes or my dad working on his computer (part of his job). But I am like this for anything. So it's hard to just listen and then I totally forget what was said. I have selective hearing or listening. Or is it the ADD that makes it hard for me to focus? See, I don't know.


Also when too many things go on at once, I get anxiety. Same as when there are too many changes in my routine I get stressed out and get bitchy and head towards a meltdown. I definitely know it was not because I was hungry because I had just ate and I still acted that way and it was this week. I got upset when my husband disrupted what i was doing to have me do a application for health insurance and then I got upset when I found out it take too long and I had to be at work soon. So I couldn't do it now or it be too much. AS or because it was my work day and would I have no acted that way if I wasn't employed? See, hard to tell. Then yesterday he came home with three Mother's Day presents and he held me up by wanting to wrap one of them for my mother and it made me anxious because it was not what I had expected and after all I was going to work that day too so would things have been different if I wasn't employed? I didn't have much time so I got anxious when my husband was holding me up and I had planned to send off those packages that day when he got home. But didn't expect he bring home Mother's day gifts for me and his mother and mine. Hard to say.

I sometimes think people are quick to blame things on their AS than analyzing it and looking at the whole scenario and questioning it like I do a lot. Besides I have never read anything about aspies having selective hearing or listening, I have only read here how aspies have a hard time shifting from one activity to another and that includes interruptions.

Ah I see. So you were actually talking about people blaming those things on it, than blaming other stuff on it. I thought those were examples you were listing. I read the thread title and think what is in the OP is an example of it and the rest of us are free to say whatever than isn't related to the OP but what answers the thread title. That's how I do it on forums so I always assume it's the same with everyone else when they make a post.

I only blame one of my weaknesses on having AS: my poor social skills. That does not mean, however, that I can sit back and freely commit social blunders, saying, "It's because I have AS".

I think that AS affects so many aspects of the way I am and how I interact with the world that at times it can be very difficult to pick apart exactly what problems are due to AS and which are due to upbringing, personality, external factors, etc.

I've had some very troubling problems trying to get along with groups of people that could be chalked up to having an intractable and angry personality, but I think that the way I understood the events as they unfolded, they way I reacted to them, and the way in which I was misunderstood all were directly attributable to my AS.

That is not to say that I couldn't have figured out some way to look at the situation differently, or some way to react to it differently, but there was a big old obstacle in my way, and I don't think I was making it up or trying to assign blame to it so that I would be absolved of my mistakes. I think it has to do with realizing that the problems brought on by having AS can manifest in very subtle and sometimes unexpected ways.