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aspie48
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23 Apr 2011, 6:46 pm

when i talk to girls and i wanted that type of thing i would probably talk about sex not marriage. idk tho aspies are dam hard to read. if he was talking about marriage like it was some kind of strategy then he probably aint attracted.



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23 Apr 2011, 11:29 pm

aspie48 wrote:
when i talk to girls and i wanted that type of thing i would probably talk about sex not marriage. idk tho aspies are dam hard to read. if he was talking about marriage like it was some kind of strategy then he probably aint attracted.


He'll certainly not talk about sex - he's way too shy, religious and respectful and I don't do the sex before marriage thing which he knows. I know he wants to settle down, he mentioned it last year and during the conversation he said that all his friends are married with kids and he's still single at 42.



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23 Apr 2011, 11:32 pm

Meggo wrote:
I'm probably going to say the opposite of what others have said, but it sounds like he's trying to turn you down or deflect your approaches without hurting your feelings. Maybe he has some feelings for you and doesn't want to completely deny anything will ever happen, but he isn't interested now. You were so forward, he would have told you if he liked you too rather than say thank you.


My question would be..if he can't even tell me that he missed me, what are the odds that he'll tell me he likes me (assuming he does, of course)?



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24 Apr 2011, 2:52 am

huntedman wrote:
. The difficulty with verbal expression, might be related to the conversation you are trying to have,


This I think is key... We are able to talk about almost anything without a problem, except his feelings. When I was arranging our meeting for next week he was nervously laughing throughout the chat and was at times unable to even look at me. Seems I have to make him feel really at ease before I even start this talk...