How do you know a conversation has finished?

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i know that a conversation is finished when i stop talking.

I was talking about this with my daughter who is even more socially skilled than I am not. She said not to wait until they are yawning or looking at their watch. She said to leave them when they're wanting more. For instance, you are telling them something interesting and" OMG,sorry, I just temembered I 'm supposed to be doing something right now" or. while they are telling you something, "OMG, I have to go but that is so interesting. Please promise you'll tell me more about it later." She said that saying something like that will actually cause most people to actively look forward to seeing you again rather than finding you boring.

I haven't tried it yet.

Oh I know this one! The conversation ends after the following words are spoken: Hello! Hello, how are you? Fine, how are you? Great! [Awkward silence ensues...] = End of conversation.

I like this one; it is a basic tenet of show business: always leave the audience wanting more.

Knowing how and when to end a conversation is something I try to be aware of whenever talking with someone.

If/when they show signs of losing interest (e.g. looking away, short responses instead of contributing) I enter into a termination sequence. Something like: "Hey, listen, great chatting with you! I need to run now - take care and have a great day!". (Big friendly smile and wave while walking away.) This is easy to pull off at a shopping mall or something because obviously we are both there on errands or something.

For social phone conversations I sometimes intentionally start something with a timer (microwave, dryer, etc.) prior to or during the call so that when it goes off I can have a plausible excuse to end the call. ("Oops - dryers done. Let me go get those clothes out of there before they get wrinkled up!")

I don't.