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draelynn
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30 May 2011, 7:44 pm

abyssquick wrote:
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...and you hit the nail on the head... there are alot of kids here. And by kids I mean anyone under 30...
- 30 is the new '20' ... does that make '20' the new '10' ...? The way many of today's 20-year-olds act, I'm beginning to wonder.....


exactly my point... :)



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30 May 2011, 7:50 pm

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Why does it seem that there is a lot of people here who expect NT's to bend over their backs and tend to their every need because their disabled ? I know it's all because of the disorder and all, but why do you guys here hate others (particularly NT's) so much? No wonder some of you don't have friends, jobs, boyfriends/girlfriends and whatnot. You guys are limiting yourself by blaming your AS for every problem that you have. I'm not saying AS is fake, but some of you just need to grow up.


Okay, really? You must not know how hard it is for us then, right? I have severe anxiety, High Functioning autism and ADHD. I was also emotionally abused as a child in school because of severe bullying and lack of awareness. I do have a boyfriend I love very much and friends that support me. I don't have a job or attend college because of emotional and disability reasons.

Some people here have trouble finding such things. It's not they are using it as an excuse. I don't hate NTs either since most of my friends are NTs. I just hate some of the really ignorant ones who don't understand what it is like. You have to realize how hard it is for others who aren't very good with such things. I mean I know you SAID you don't think AS is fake but the way you are putting it, you don't really seem to understand the nature of it and how debilitating it is for some of the ones here who have it.

Sorry, had to get that out.


I don't mean everyone. I noticed from reading threads that some people here think they are superior. I don't mean to offend you, but it's good that you were able to form relationships and not use your disabilities as excuse. Keep it up!


If someone has a disability that causes problems with socialising, it's not an excuse for difficulty with relationships, it's a REASON.


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30 May 2011, 7:51 pm

draelynn wrote:
...and you hit the nail on the head... there are alot of kids here. And by kids I mean anyone under 30...

When you see a post that makes you go hmmmmmm, check out your posters age in their profile and put it into perspective.


Ah, don't be an ageist.



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30 May 2011, 8:35 pm

Aspergers Syndrome is social disability. Social. Disability. Which means we have trouble socializing. With other people. We do not expect you to bend over backwards for us. We do not expect you to pity us. We would love if you could try to understand us but do not expect it. We expect you however to respect us as human beings. That is all we as aspies want from the NT world. Respect.

Aspergers is not an excuse. We genuinely have trouble. Aspergers is a spectrum of its own within the autism spectrum, loosely ranging from low functioning to high functioning. No matter where a person is on this scale, we still have trouble socially. We do not expect anything from you. But respect.

And respect is compassion. Have the compassion to try to understand our difficulties. If you do not want to give us that, fine, but don't go posting on a forum for people with Asperger's Syndrome complaining about people with Aspergers Syndrome.

(Idc if I just got trolled, I like this post. :P)