Why tell your parents?

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Since aspies have average or above intelligence they are the same as NT-s when it comes to "thinking". Their only deficit is emotions. But the decisions you are referring to have nothing do with emotions.

The only reason it APPEARS like aspies are bad at thinking on their feet is that they are not socially aware so they forget to pretend to be better than they really are (which is what NT-s remember to do). Everyone has some failings; NT hides them, an aspie doesn't. So thats why it WRONGLY appears like an aspie is worse at thinking than NT.

I completely disagree with you and your assumptions about Aspergers Syndrome and neuro-typical behavior. Not only does your statements lack psychiatric support but they are far too general to be applied to any singular individual.

I made these assertions partly based on my own experiences as an aspie, and partly based on the DSM 4 criteria that states that they do not have any delays apart from social interactions:

That means an aspie child is not delayed in development only, an important distinction when determining the functional level. This speaks nothing to the aspie's anxiety and focus troubles, which you're overlooking as a critical factor, especially in adulthood. This is yet another reason why I'm pleased the DSM will be changing to better and more clearly describe Autism.

Well yes; I was suggesting two possible versions of families.

Because if there are aspie-traited people in both generations and a family from a culture who believes traditionally that family remains close for life, several of you are probably at an emotional level that remains about age 13 in some aspects of your personality, no matter how 'adult' your physical and cognitive processes may be.

First, I'm not in the Army. Secondly, becoming a supervisor was not a "choice."



Yes you do. If you do not understand that, then you do not understand how the Air Force works.

I was also in the military and can vouch for what is described in this thread, particularly the supervisory responsibilities. The latest regs disqualify those with AS as of April 13th this year. Ironic? I finished my enlistment not long before that happened. I am always grateful that nothing bad happened. I was, I was told, unprecedentedly stellar at some things. Yet I knew I should not advance any more through the NCO ranks (since they no longer have the advanced SPC ranks).

that depends on your family

if you are the scapegoat for your family's faults....then you will be better not sharing that with them cause dysfuctional families dont like changes very well, and everyone is given a strict role which is met with much aggression if they try to get out of that role. If you are trying tell them your diagnosis in order to change your role of the scapegoat in the family, they will use all manner of denial and illogical thinking to keep you in your "place" no matter what evidence you have.

However, if your family is supportive or even semi-supportive, then it would help your adult relationships by relieving guilt and increasing understanding so amends can be made.

the key here is role flexibility...in a dysfuctional family, there is very little role flexibility, also if addiction plays any role in your family dynamic then this inflexability is multiplied.
learned this in college as a psychology major