Buck-oh wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
I didn't get the idea of high school cliques until I watched Buffy, and I am sure what I got from Buffy was not realistic at all.
Cliques having that much "power" is a pretty distorted and highly exaggerated version of reality, but it makes for great teen movie villians. Movies like
Heathers,
Jawbreaker or
Mean Girls play on the assumption or illusion that a group of people can make high school miserable for someone if a person in the clique is high enough in the "pecking order" has taken an interest in destroying your life.
The reality is, these cliques are formed by groups of individuals sharing a few common interests. When things go bad is when one or two members of a clique or group derail it's purpose with manipulation and insecurity. High schools are cesspools of insecurity.
Yeah, I didn't think it was realistic, as I said.
Cliques still mystify me, though. I've been accused of being inside a clique, had someone vent at me about different cliques. I had no idea what they were referring to. At best it seems to me that people notice that a group of people hang out together and do stuff together and it becomes some kind of "elitist problem."
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While I didn't break down my relationship with specific classmates in the same categories you did; I did tend to view them as individuals rather than a collective. I never was asked to leave a table because I wasn't in the appropriate clique, and I refused to tolerate "friends" dictating who I could spend time with and who I needed to shun.
I don't view these categories as collectives. I categorized people this way because if I did not, it was easier for them to take advantage of me, and try to "in real life" troll me. I viewed people individually as being in one of these categories.
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I'm sure that has more to do with those individual's inflated sense of importance than it does with some mystical hierarchy.
Maybe. How should I know either way?
It seems to me that NTs perceive some kind of hierarchy as present. I doubt it's anything
mystical, even if it doesn't make sense to me.
12 Jul 2011, 1:11 pm
