"Coming Out" with your silent disability

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spaceappleseed
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20 Dec 2011, 8:31 pm

I just "came out" to my family today. My mom was way cooler about it than I thought she would be. After reading the article about Asperger's that I sent her she said that although she had never thought of it she was not surprised. And I found out that my sister-in-law has been wondering if I had it for a while.



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21 Dec 2011, 9:55 am

I don't personally have a problem with letting people know about my condition, just as long as they're controlled to people who I trust. I've told most of my immediate family, some of my co-workers, and several people at church I associate with regularly. As far as making a grandstand announcement about it to everyone on FB or in church, I try to refrain from that.

The only person who I've decided to not tell is my grandmother. While she's caring and in relatively good health, my family and I have agreed that she'd probably have a difficult time wrapping her mind around the news. So unless some odd occasion were to arise, like the rest of the people I haven't told, it's something she simply doesn't need to know.

Even though I don't make many new friends these days, I'm still undecided on how to handle telling them about my condition. Even though I've never had a girlfriend, I can imagine I would have to let her know fairly early on in the relationship in order to minimalize awkward moments. Besides, I'd rather her accept me for what I am than have her think I might be just another one of those "nice guys."



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21 Dec 2011, 10:16 am

i personally only disclose if i have to; even though almost everywhere around me, people are accepting and dont shift into predjudice, there is some subconcious taboo still, plus, if i tell someone, it is out of my hands whether or not that person tells others again.

in my case, the only ones that know are my parents, my housemates and my college counseller...