Am I an unusual high functioning aspie?

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How did that not cause you to go crazy and paranoid to the point where your so scard that you did something wrong socially or did that happen but you outgrew that paranoid stage? Cause for me, I'm still in the paranoid stage, where Im so scard of people disliking me and doing the wrong thing.



The funny thing about crushes with me is that I did not know how to flirt and attract a guy until I found myself subconsciously doing it within the last year or 2. Once I wasn't really into the guy. The other guy I was into him and I attracted him to some extent but that is a long complicated story and unfortunately we never ended up together. Funny thing, I thought for the longest time I didn't know how to flirt until I read a how to flirt article and realized I was doing umm 8 out of the 10 things and I was acting like the biggest flirt around him.

Oh I was very paranoid I would do the wrong thing all the time in junior high and high school until about junior or senior year. It was really bad, I cant believe how up tight and stressed I was all the time. I would sweat constantly. In junior year I thought everyone was talking about me and how weird I was. I still believe they were, I was picked on every day.

Well 1st job, employer super generous, this was in HS and mostly I discount that experiance by now. Next job, not technically a paid job, it was very much like a job where we did lab work. But I did my work very much on my own time so there was a lot of flexibility with the work, the prof was extremely generous. It was not a real job tho. As for my current job, well the literalness is that I havent stayed long enough at the job to maintain it, only 4 months so far. Technically maintaining it would be a year perhaps? As for the past work, well the most recent, that wasnt technically a job.

Yea didnt bother reading other ppls posts, you must be pretty thats why, pretty girls have it easy.

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The first one can be made easier by being attractive because of people being more willing to hire someone they find attractive, true. The second could also (certainly easier to have a boyfriend, not easier to not have problems in my mind, but I'll give you that one anyways). Having close friends could be made easier by physical attractiveness because of people bothering to pay attention to you more (yet, once again it could also easily lead to being taken advantage of).


However looking at the other half... there's no way that physical attractiveness or being female makes sensory issues any more mild. There's little association between either of those and the level of social awkwardness, and there's no association between them and meltdowns.

People don't suddenly have it easier because of either being female or being attractive. They just have different challenges than those who aren't do.

The nature of autism as a spectrum disorder is such that borderline cases are inevitable. Just where the line should be drawn is not clear.

Theoretically speaking, one could have every single autistic trait there is and yet be undiagnosable if those traits did not cause "clinically significant impairment in functioning." Mind you, it is very unlikely that a person with every single autistic trait (if such a person even existed) would not meet any reasonable threshold for significant impairment, but theoretically it could happen. Just having autistic traits, even many autistic traits, is not enough for a diagnosis.

Of course, deciding what is or is not clinically significant impairment in functioning is a subjective judgment.