Are you very forgiving?

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Not overly, I would like to think

I don't either love or hate. I love some people and I hate some people but with most people I just like. My most hated person on this planet is David Cameron, but I couldn't tell you who my most loved person on this whole planet is, since love comes in different forms with me. I usually love men I fancy, even if I don't really talk to them, and I love all my family and some of my friends, but that's a different sort of love.

But anyway, yes I am very forgiving. Well, actually, I don't know so much. If somebody bullied me terribly, then a few months later started speaking to me nicely, or perhaps even saying sorry, I will be civil to them, but inside I would never want to get involved with them again. If they asked me to add them on Facebook or give them my phone number, I make excuses because I find it difficult to be blunt. I usually just avoid them, they'll soon realise that I don't want to be friends and hopefully cotton on to it and just not bother any more.

However, if it was a misunderstanding or an argument, I can forgive. People would have to do a lot of damage to make me not like them again. I'm not the type to get the hump with people over small or even moderate things.

I tend to forgive, although I do not forget. I don't mean in the sense that I constantly bring up the past. But more in the sense that I keep the past in mind in context with the present.

If I reach the point where I do not forgive, things tend to have either gone on for too long and I simply can't accept it any longer, or the action itself was just obnoxious enough that there's no point to forgiveness. I am also fairly unforgiving about breaches of trust.

I tend to forgive but not forget and fixate on the past. I will try to make me fixating on the past affect others as little as possible, but I won't be able to get it out of my thought processes. One statement someone makes in frustration will easily still affect me years later if its one that hurts particularly much.

On the other hand, I'll try to help people even once they've hurt me a lot.

There are two people I cannot stand. One of them I've forgiven, though will still refuse to have anything to do with. The other of which I tried to apologize to and then he started attacking me because I was having difficulty finding words for an apology.

I tend to be forgiving. Awareness of my own wrongs helps with that.