draelynn wrote:
I just started a new job. I have learned after decades of practice, when talking to others about your interest, you need to speak to them on a sub-beginners level. My interest is in plants so botanical names don't enter conversations until I know the person has the interest by asking more detailed questions of me. I keep my plant talk very basic.
BUT, one of my employees was working with me and in the course of conversation I used the word 'prevalent'. Context, in this case, is irrelevant. She looked at me strangely - I wasn't sure which part of my conversation she was confused about. After a few tries she pointed out the word 'prevalent' and said I was using big words. O_o Up until that point we had been conversing 'normally'. She doesn't seem to be learning impaired, possess your average intelligence of the public in general, a high school graduate.
I have this happen often with words I normally consider in the general English lexicon.
My question - how do you know? How do you know when and how much to dumb down your conversation? The first time I had an employer tell me outright to dumb down my communications I was flabbergasted. I thought it was the height of arrogance and rudeness to assume that people were 'dumb'. As it turns out, it is generally considered rude and arrogant to 'flaunt' your intelligence even when it entails using the English language that is freely available in any dictionary and words comparable to a middle school reading comprehension test.
Seriously - my 9 year old knows the word 'prevalent'.
What is the base level of 'dumb' I should be expecting? (and let me make it crystal clear... 'DUMB' is NOT my word. It is the word my superiors have used. I find it rather repugnant but the 'dumbing down' concept is widely accepted... doctors, I find, make great use of it.)
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the word 'prevalent'
Only in America.
Once, I was told by a coworker to stop talking like a lawyer, to use normal words. The word was
ascertain.
Recently, I took the liberty to ask a coworker about me, of what is it that
you find weird or different. He said, "you're different in that you have a fascination with information, and you'll look up everything there is to know about something. Most people don't do that. Not that this is bad, but you have different angle or
way of looking at things. It's good to be different."
There really isn't an up pe front
perfect answer on how to tailor your speech. On the other side of the coin, I've simplified stuff and it comes out as " dumbing down," and they felt a bit slighted.
I say, just be yourself.