Hugs?

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I never liked hugs as a child. But now that I haven't been hugged in more than 20 years, I miss it I think if I ran into somebody offering free hugs, I'd take them up on the offer. I wouldn't care that it's a complete stranger.

I like them, but feel uncomfortable at the same time.

Aww... a friendship without hugs is not quite an intimate friendship

I have said "intimate" friendships with basically all of my friends. As in, it's okay to get in each others' business. Having hugs be a crucial part of my friendships has to do with my means of communication:
My strengths and weaknesses with communication are rather strange...
Tone of voice isn't always clear to me, body language goes right over my head, and other non-verbal means of communication like basic eye-contact confuse me greatly.
And just talking one-on-one or in a group is always complicated and scary in its own ways.
But as for hugging? That's simple! That's the easiest way for me to communicate, and happily it's communicating affection!


Is the recoiling just a reflex? Do you actually welcome hugs?
Because if so, I suggest letting people know that so that you don't offend them and they can continue to be affectioniate! ^v^


What exactly do you mean?


Ooh... why?

I've actually grown to like hugs now, as long as they're from someone I know and like. I still don't initiate them, though - I just don't really know when it's appropriate and it feels quite "pushy" to do it. I mean, if the other person doesn't actually want you to hug them then they're faced with a difficult choice: they either have to go through with it anyway and suffer the unpleasantness or openly reject you, which is quite a statement. I don't like putting people on the spot like that, since I don't like it being done to me. Yet some people (perhaps most NTs?) seem to have a good feel for when a hug would be welcome.

As a kid I used to absolutely hate hugs and would sometimes recoil even from being patted on the shoulder and such. My poor grandparents could never get hugs out of me unless it was their birthday or something and even then it would be a very reluctant and forced one.

That was me. So much.
Still to this day for family members. I just don't know why I love hugs from my friends but can't stand contact with my family.

I'm not really a touchy-feely person UNLESS I like the person sexually. I love hugging my crushes. I only like tight hugs. Loose ones feel fake and creepy to me.

I'm a aspie and I love hugs but sadly I rarely get them or receive them .

I like hugs too, though the sad thing is I tend to get rejected and feel very embarrassed when I try to initiate or want to get a hug from someone (stranger or not) but gets turned down. I would however still give and receive hugs whenever I can, though I'm more of a receiver than a giver now due to many past rejections

Yeah i like hugging, it shows that there is a nice connection

I hate hugs.

I love hugs. I am like FMX though. When I was a kid, in my preteen and teen years, I hated them. They always felt awkward and weird especially from my family. Now I am a little more comfortable with my family. But from people I really trust, I love them. And I hug people I meet for the first time too. If I don't feel threatened by the person, I can give and receive great hugs.

There are only certain people I'm comfortable with, like my Mum and my sister. Other people, I'll just feel strange, and hardly give anything back in return, I'll just let it happen till it's over. Unless I'm really upset at the time. Then it may be different.

When I'm around people who I wouldn't consider myself comfortable with, even if they are good friends, I like to keep away and avoid it as much as I can, but I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea, because secretly, I want it, since the only way to become comfortable with something is to keep on going through it.

I love hugs! I have trouble figuring out when they're appropriate though so I only reciprocate, never give hugs unless it's obvious (close friends or family I haven't seen in awhile, my husband....) so people think I'm cold. And it's sad

To all the huggers on this thread - fancy a group hug? I want one!! !

Big hug to you girl!

Definitely depends on the person for me. Today, some guy in a class of mine gave me a hug to thank me for bringing some extra cupcakes to class to share. I just wanted to freeze up and I had no idea what to do with my arms and body.

But with my boyfriend, we are always touching and hugging and I love it.

With people I hang out with, I can do hugs every once in a while, no every time I see them or anything. I have one friend who is very into hugging; it makes me uncomfortable.

I enjoy giving and receiving hugs, but it depends on the person. I only feel comfortable receiving hugs from friends and family members. I also would get a little skittish when people sneak hugs on me because, although being hugged is a pleasant surprise, people touching my skin so suddenly without my knowledge tend to startle me.