did your parents force you to make friends?

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Well she tried. again back then i wasnt diagnosed.

But ofcourse she though it was the computer that was causing me to be a loner.

So then i could only use the computer like 2 or 3 hours a day.

the rest of the time i would just sit and stare in thin air. Its not like i wanted to or enjoyed socializing. Would rather stare at a wall tbh. Socializing is freaking torture when your bad at it, dont understand all the hidden stuff, and get overloaded with impressions, noise.

Hopefully, they don't again. They have before in the past.

When I was around 9, I still never had any friends except this HFA girl who was in special ed with me. It wasn't until late that year I made more friends. My parents and doctors never knew what my diagnosis was yet, but they knew I wasn't very sociable. So, it ended up they nudge me (I yelp loudly having sensory issues, not expecting that) and tell me to talk with them. But I tell them I don't know what to say, but they would push me over anyway.

I understand how you feel. If I ever have kids (first, let's talk about getting another girlfriend), I won't force them to, because chances are, they have something liek HFA.

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Only 1 1/2 more weeks of school and procrastination.

Major struggle all through my childhood. I remember one x-mas, they disregarded all my requests and gifted me games because, then, I'd need to find partners to play them; I went back to drawing pictures and writing poems. The next year, off to the shrink. Luckily it was the early 70's and everything was about schizophrenia so I was off the hook. But, still, what a lot of grief over so little. And to think my mother is the least social person I've ever known, myself included.

My parents didnt force me to make friends because they thought I was very shy and they didnt know anything about aspergers back then. My mom encouraged me to make friends and when I finally started, she didnt completely approve of them being mostly male. However, now she gets mad at me when I dont socialize with the people she wants me to. I guess my sociability is there but now quite what she expected. Basically she has no control over it and doesnt always like it.

No. My father has interfered very little with my life. My mother didn't give it any thought. It was my teachers who were so concerned about my lack of interest in other children. Their concern had my mother ask me if I was lonely, which I wasn't, and my happiness was the important thing to her, as it should be IMO.
Fortunately from junior high teachers stopped getting involved in that kind of thing.

At one point or so they did. This took place as soon as I moved to Ohio. At another point, I was set up with someone after my cousin's wedding; it turned out I didn't like him as much. Most of the time, though, I make friends on my own, both at school and at work.

Making friends is hard. I have one best friend but he is always busy. Maybe I'm not his best friend. I feel like I want more friends, more people to do things with but it is hard for me to meet people and I especially don't know what to say to them. It is hard for me to use wrong planet for socializing.

My parents have never FORCED me to make friends but they have tried to set up situations for me to be friendly with kids my age. It is hard for me to discriminate friends from acquaintances.

Is anyone here from the Charlotte, NC area? Maybe we could start being friends on wrong planet.

My parents didn't force me to make friends when I was young, but they sometimes encouraged me too. They realized I liked my alone time. I did have a best friend that I often played with. We were more like brothers.

I had very few friends when I was younger. My parents didn't like any of them and tried to force me to make new friends.

My parents knew I had lots of issues & was physically bullied for them so they didn't push me to make friends but they did encourage me to join activities so I would make em but they didn't push or anything even when I was an adult. They did get angry at some of my Aspie traits thou & so did my teachers.

My mom never forced me to make friends. But we did hang out alot, I LOVED that, she became my friend. ❤️

My parents and teacher wanted me to make friends so I made none since I don't understand friendship and my social anxiety will always make me lose them.

My parents didn't actually "force" me to socialize with others, I just felt like they wanted me to in a non-forcing but forcing way (if that even makes sense).

Nowadays they don't mind that I don't want friends or to socialize with others in real life.

Nobody got angry or tried to force me. (It seems like it'd be a futile effort, as I didn't speak to people.) Some of my teachers in the first few years of elementary school would give me a "needs improvement" grade in "gets along well with others" because I didn't interact with the other students, rather than the intended purpose of the grade (to indicate behavioral problems).