Are some people being coddled too much?

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I think people have a tendency to try and find ways to explain their relative level of functioning in terms of personal merit (their own or sometimes someone else's). By explaining things in terms of "coddling," it's easy to rationalize being able to function in certain ways as due to "doing something right" as opposed to "that's how you're constituted."

I find people love to do this with upbringing and intellect, and I question the accuracy of such assumptions overall as I tested with a genius IQ and I was not coddled as a child, but I tend to have severe problems in multiple areas of life - which is to say either my experiences are not consistent with what others describe, or that for some reason I am unable to interpret my life experiences in such a manner as to see the benefits these bring me strictly in the context of my impairments. I can definitely see benefits in other ways, but I don't see how they mitigate my problems.

Or maybe it's a kind of distancing tactic, sort of like "There but for the grace of God go I." Or maybe really do find such things beneficial and make them more functional. I don't know, I only know my own experiences.