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28 May 2012, 1:50 pm

Because we bore them to death.



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28 May 2012, 10:45 pm

Even my friends at my school's anime club don't want to hear me go on and on about the Japanese language or culture. They just care about anime and games and have no interest in learning the language. As for those in my Japanese class, when I go out of my way to meet with them for study sessions, they end up talking about everything EXCEPT what we should be studying for. I really don't understand that at all.


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29 May 2012, 2:31 am

Well, from my perspective, it really depends on the information, if it's something I can follow i.e. not very scientific or tricky then I am usually interested in hearing about it but ONCE...I have a good memory and generally remember stuff so when someone tells me something over and over, it starts to irritate me.


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29 May 2012, 8:34 am

Sometimes I like to talk about my special interest, verbally, to someone, just to get it out of my system a bit. In fact it's kind of like a stim, the more I talk about my special interest to close relatives, the more relaxed my nerves feel, and I keep feeling the urge to have to talk about it.

I wish it wasn't an Autistic trait to constantly want to talk about your special subject though. I have to be very careful not to mention anything at all about my special interests to my friends, because I have lost a lot of friends at school from talking too much about special interests. So now I've learnt my lesson.

Luckily I didn't begin having special interests 'til at least the age of 11. Under the age of 11 I just had general interests like everyone does, so I wasn't obsessed enough to keep on and on about them.


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29 May 2012, 9:20 am

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Erminetheawkward wrote:
So... has anyone had any luck at all sharing special interests, or deciding who to share with? It seems I can even bore my closer friends when I start talking about art and music...

Yes, write a blog, and find similar blogs to post comments on, and before you know it, you are part of a small blog "island community".


I just might have to try that. But what about IRL?



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30 May 2012, 11:40 am

DerStadtschutz wrote:
questor wrote:
The reason they aren't interested is because we go on and on about it


I'm gonna call complete and utter BS on that one. EVERYWHERE I GO, people will NOT shut the f**k up about sports... That's ALL they talk about... stupid goddamn football, basketball, and baseball... sports, sports, sports. They sit and argue why one team is better than another, who's going to win what, blah blah f***ing blah... "why's billy upset?" "oh, his team just lost." What the f***ing sh**? They talk non-stop about sports... and like cars, and celebrities.


^THIS^

I've always hated animae because it was okay to "go on and on" about that but it wasn't okay for me to "go on and on" about meerkats. Many people like any animae simply because it's from Japan. Weeaboos! Me, all I care about is a good story, I don't care about the country of orgin. As much as I hate animae in general, I love many of Hayao Miyazaki's movies, such as Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind and Spirited Away, but I love them for the story.


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30 May 2012, 8:07 pm

I don't know? My family isn't interested, but my friends are happy to hear me talk about my special interest (or just put up with it, I don't know :P ).
Then again, my friendship group doesn't comprise of 'typical' people.



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30 May 2012, 10:48 pm

Neurotypicals are into fads not special interests.



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31 May 2012, 1:19 am

biribiri20 wrote:
Even my friends at my school's anime club don't want to hear me go on and on about the Japanese language or culture. They just care about anime and games and have no interest in learning the language. As for those in my Japanese class, when I go out of my way to meet with them for study sessions, they end up talking about everything EXCEPT what we should be studying for. I really don't understand that at all.


I can relate to that. I love Japanese media but every NT I meet only likes Bleach, Air Gear, etc. Titles that are so mainstream I haven't even tried to watch them. Most "Japan" nuts don't even really read manga. My manga to anime ratio is 10 to 1, so I can't relate to those with similar interests. Learning Japanese would be awesome though, are you running a blog or something?.



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31 May 2012, 1:41 am

Because our interests differ from theirs and its an aspie thing that they do not understand.


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31 May 2012, 2:05 am

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The reason they aren't interested is because we go on and on about it, and often it's something that most people wouldn't be interested in anyway, so we end up boring them to tears, or to the point of complaining about it.

As for aggression usually ending at about the age of 5, that's a load of bull. Sorry to contradict you on this, but I am in my early 50s, and have encountered many aggressive people in all age groups over my 5+ decades of life.

You need to either keep your interests to yourself or share them with others who are interested in them, but don't keep forcing it on people who are not interested in it. It's a real turn off for them. I know that when the schools kept forcing me to learn stuff that had no interest to me, and I also couldn't see any use to a particular course, that was a huge turn off to me.

I'm sorry there is no one in your family who shares your interests, but somewhere out there, there must be someone who does. Try looking for them on the I-net, or through local clubs and organizations. What about others who take those courses with you?


Even most neurotypicals don't keep their interests to themselves, I don't think that should be required. Maybe limit how much you talk about a certain topic if others aren't interested....but I doubt most people can totally keep their intrests to themselves and only express them around people who have the same interest.


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