What do you hate and love most about having Asperger's?

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If I had to guess what we Aspie's ultimatly love/hate it would be

Hate: The social isolation, pain of feeling weird.

Love: The idea of being "special/different" ect.

hate
that i can't get a date. that i cant tell if a girl likes me or not. that I'm 25 and haven't had a girl friend
that i have learning disabilities. that people assume that I'm stupid when they find out.


love
my obsession/passion/special-entreat and the grade i get as a result.


i do not have a diagnoses. i think that is important for you to know. i am looking for a professional and doing a lot of recherche

Hate
-poor fine motor skills
-central auditory processing disability
-not able to communicate effectively unles written
-don't like crowds
-don't like being touched
-don't like small talk
-I never know what to say
-I hate my monotone voice
-I don't like the stigma society makes of it
-I wish I felt more empathy

Love
-how I'm able to hyper focus on stuff that interests me
-I'm pretty patient
-I can tolerate a lot of stuff or endure
-I'm unique
-I'm detail oriented
-good listener
-my love of knowledge and reading
-good diplomat
-I'm perceived as strong when it comes to my emotions

Hate: the fact that certain people I like don't like me back (over my lifetime has happened more than average I think)

Love: ability to think about things from a different perspective and sometimes see things that most NT's can't see

Hate: that I'm weird, different, and alone

Love: that at least there's a logical reason for it?

HATE
Everything.

LIKE
Nothing. All the good things about me aren't to do with AS, they are just general traits that I share with a lot of NTs.

HATE
I hate how socially awkward I am. I hate how lonely I am. I hate how people my age treat me differently. I hate how easily I get stressed out. I hate how it's hard to write clear paragraphs.
LOVE
How things that are obvious to me really stump NTs. When I was watching a presentation on astronomy the guy that was talking mentioned one thing that stumped people for years. He said that people didn't know why planets appeared to move back and forth. For me it was obvious because I've noticed that when I'm in the car and another car is slower, the slower car appeared to move backwards. I knew that all planets including earth move and that the planets that appeared to move back and forth were probably going slower. My answer was right. Astronomy isn't even my special interest. It was my sisters idea to go there.

Right now...
Like:
Hyperlexia
Memory
Vast knowledge of my previous obsessions
Being unique and confounding everyone, especially my girlfriend
Not knowing any modern culture
Hate:
Being too tactile
Finickiness between who's interesting and who's not
not being able to tell you why I am who I am

Love that I am gifted and intelligent.

Hate that I am alone most of the time because everyone hates a person that is gifted and intelligent

HATE:

-Not being able to relate to the majority of the population... and vice versa.

- Feeling like no one can share in your interests/nobody understands you.

- Feeling like people view you as less than human.

- Not being respected just because I am not a social butterfly, water cooler gossip queen.

LOVE:

- Being super logical.

- Being able to think outside of the box on many different issues. It's a good feeling when you know that you have made other people think thoughts that they wouldn't have thought themselves.

- Having a laser accurate ability to focus.

- Being comfortable doing things by myself, without having to worry about being "on" or following social conventions, many of which are ridiculous.

-Having an awesome long term memory.

- Creativity

HATE:
-Not being able to understand non-verbal communication;
-Oversensority issues;
-Not being able to focus on something I'm not interested in;
-Looking emotion-less;
-Lack of motor coordination;
-Not being able to distinguish between the informations I should say to people and the ones I should keep to myself.

LOVE:
-Having a good long-term memory;
-Being able to focus quite much on things I'm interested in (although sometimes it can get obnoxious because I can even forget to eat, brush my teeth, etc).

HATE
- Anxiety in anticipation of almost every social interaction
- Inability to chat about nothing
- Not being able to concentrate if there's too much noise

LOVE
- Seeing human behaviour as an outside observer
- Using logic not muddied by emotion
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Hate- The fact that I/we have to live in such socially demanding World. The stress this causes me is so great that it's disabling.
Love- My way of thinking.

Hate
It messed up so much in my childhood /youth.
Big crowds
Sudden changes
Unexpected visits
The fact that I get so exhausted after friends/family visits me.
That I have big difficulties explaining to a doctor even the basic stuff on how I feel, etc.
Not being able to enjoy a holiday trip with my family.
Being out in the sun or beach. (I have a sixpack, but feel no need to showoff)
The need of being alone or calming down in a cool, dark room.
That I never can use public toilets
Not recognising people.

Love
My intense focus on special interest
My analytical skill
My steep learning curve
My ability to not become hysterical in crisis situation
My extremly special dreams.
Parts of my childhood, especially finding areas of special interest and discover the joy of focusing on them

Hate
It messed up so much in my childhood /youth.
Big crowds
Sudden changes
Unexpected visits
The fact that I get so exhausted after friends/family visits me.
That I have big difficulties explaining to a doctor even the basic stuff on how I feel, etc.
Not being able to enjoy a holiday trip with my family.
Being out in the sun or beach. (I have a sixpack, but feel no need to showoff)
The need of being alone or calming down in a cool, dark room.
That I never can use public toilets
Not recognising people.

Love
My intense focus on special interest
My analytical skill
My steep learning curve
My ability to not become hysterical in crisis situation
My extremly special dreams.
Parts of my childhood, especially finding areas of special interest and discover the joy of focusing on them