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23 Jun 2012, 11:02 am

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so, I was at a beach party yesterday and everyone was saying how everyone wants to be awkward because its cool.
but why does every one make fun and criticize awkward people? NTs make no sense :(


I think it only comes off as cool when you embrace your awkwardness and don't care what others think. I was at a show recently with an audience full of people who fit that description. I could tell though that even though they appeared more awkward than me at first glance (I was people watching) I realized I was the only one with in sight who had to keep looking at the ground because the sun was hurting my eyes and I was the only one bouncing on my toes and flapping my hands because I get anxious being around so many people. It was a strange realization.


No, that doesn't work either. I've tried that, and it makes people think you think you know everything or that you're better than everybody else. Or at least that's what it does to me.



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23 Jun 2012, 11:10 am

It seems to me that only a specific brand of awkwardness is cool - perhaps a certain type of controlled or even forced awkwardness. Even when I was a freshman in college 10 years ago, it seems people prided themselves on being "awkward", so I thought "Hey, maybe I'll fit in". But it turns out I was still TOO awkward, or the wrong kind of awkward.

Seems like back then, Napoleon Dynamite was seen as the poster child for "cool" awkwardness, which made me feel some admittedly irrational aversion towards that movie even though I had never seen it. (I suppose I'll give it a chance one day.) Not sure who the poster child is nowadays - guess maybe it is the hipster movement in general. Personally, I like some of the music that gets associated with hipsters, and don't particularly have a problem with the fashion style, but am not a fan of the snobby, overtly cynical attitude that often goes hand in hand with the movement.



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23 Jun 2012, 12:06 pm

mikibacsi1124 wrote:
It seems to me that only a specific brand of awkwardness is cool - perhaps a certain type of controlled or even forced awkwardness. Even when I was a freshman in college 10 years ago, it seems people prided themselves on being "awkward", so I thought "Hey, maybe I'll fit in". But it turns out I was still TOO awkward, or the wrong kind of awkward.

Seems like back then, Napoleon Dynamite was seen as the poster child for "cool" awkwardness, which made me feel some admittedly irrational aversion towards that movie even though I had never seen it. (I suppose I'll give it a chance one day.) Not sure who the poster child is nowadays - guess maybe it is the hipster movement in general. Personally, I like some of the music that gets associated with hipsters, and don't particularly have a problem with the fashion style, but am not a fan of the snobby, overtly cynical attitude that often goes hand in hand with the movement.


Hmm it would be intresting to talk to a snobby hipster, I think I would go for the try and convince them I am more hip approach. It would be even better if I am wearing my metalhead attire then I can say 'I am so hip you can't even tell by looking at me.' and then I could brag about my vinyl collection provided theirs isn't better.


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24 Jun 2012, 1:54 am

mikibacsi1124 wrote:
It seems to me that only a specific brand of awkwardness is cool - perhaps a certain type of controlled or even forced awkwardness. Even when I was a freshman in college 10 years ago, it seems people prided themselves on being "awkward", so I thought "Hey, maybe I'll fit in". But it turns out I was still TOO awkward, or the wrong kind of awkward.

Seems like back then, Napoleon Dynamite was seen as the poster child for "cool" awkwardness, which made me feel some admittedly irrational aversion towards that movie even though I had never seen it. (I suppose I'll give it a chance one day.) Not sure who the poster child is nowadays - guess maybe it is the hipster movement in general. Personally, I like some of the music that gets associated with hipsters, and don't particularly have a problem with the fashion style, but am not a fan of the snobby, overtly cynical attitude that often goes hand in hand with the movement.


That whole thing of there being a trendy awkwardness is a huge deception. Actual awkwardness is of course terrible. When someone is supposedly celebrating awkwardness, they're just cheering on others' awkwardness to make themselves seem charitably accepting of those who are awkward, while portraying themselves as underdogs, all to help their own reputation. They would be devastated if they themselves were awkward.