NT's - Why do you come to this site?

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Here's the OP's post:



Clearly, you have a case of mistaken identity. The poster who was fed up with NTs on this site is not the OP, who is in fact NT herself.

My wife just started coming here for the same reason as OP, to understand autism spectrum disorders.

It would be nice if we could have just one thread mentioning NTs without someone having a knee-jerk reaction of "They's all EVIL! SEND THEM OFF OUR PLANET!! !!1"

Ill take this opportunity to thank the NTs on this site who post helpful comments and explanations about things that would otherwise totally baffle me, it is a usefull perspective to have. Thanks.

Ok I got posts mixed up.

Also, a week going by without someone whinging about self-diagnosis.

So you're saying you'll give me the couple thousand it costs to get a diagnoses? I'm game....

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I have come on here to try and learn what I could be doing to help my newly Diagnosed Husband, considering I am considered NT in this I could run and that would make me fairly ordinary too wouldn't it...

I can tell you now for someone coming in from the outside seeking ideas and background on how others cope from both Autistic and NT perspectives, this first "forum" I have opened has startled me completely and made me feel like I have made a mistake by coming here at all. My emotions are raw and my heart is in tatters, now I feel I have done something wrong coming here. Yeah it would just be best if I shove my head up my jumper and just leave him and find no perspective or rationale at all. Thanks for closing hurt hearts out. Whoever reads this stuff cancel my registration. Thanks Very Much!

There is always hope, Aspies can learn

This is a public discussion board. As such, you will get all kinds of people here, not all of whom will like you. However, this is not to say that you are not welcome here. I think you will find that the majority of posters here just want to learn about themselves and help others deal with their own issues related to autism in all of it's many flavors. As such, you are more than welcome to stay and learn with the rest of us. Trust me, I could get offended at some of the posters comments too as I am self-diagnosed and therefore lack the legitimacy that the more rigid among us would like to see. However, my case is much like many of the others here who have done the same in that my borderline poverty/ working class status without insurance does not permit me the funds to pay for diagnosis. I am not easily offended though. I suggest that you stay around and see what the more enlightened among us have to offer you. I think you will find that many people on the spectrum can be just as kind and loving as anyone else, and that 90% of us will treat you with courtesy and respect.

Beth V, please don't leave. Most people want you here, it is only a very few who don't. It helps to think of it from their point of view. Most of those who are NT bashing have had a really hard time socially and they're blaming it on NT's being the majority. As with any minority group, some will lash out against the majority. So many people here do not think that way. I would really like for you to stay and give the wonderful people here a chance. You will see that you are welcome by most. And for those who aren't welcoming, take it with a grain of salt. This forum was created for everyone who for whatever reason is interested in ASD's, you belong here.

Look what you've done, anti-NT people.

NTs aren't going anywhere. They will continue to be the majority of the population, whether you like it or not. Most of you, if you stopped to think, would realize you don't hate all NTs just for being NTs - you just hate being bullied and excluded. And if you want autistic people to stop being bullied and excluded, you need NTs to buy into that, because it's usually NTs doing the bullying and exclusion.

And here you have an NT who doesn't want to bully or exclude autistics, she wants to accept us and understand us. And what does she get for her effort? A bunch of NT-bashing.

Do you realize you're shooting yourselves in the foot? And dragging the rest of us down with you?

Almost every internet forum I have seen has been full of yelling at each other, unless there is an active moderation that immediately stops any fighting, but even then the general atmosphere on forums can be hard to put up with for more sensitive people. It seems to be one of the less pleasant human traits.

I have no diagnosis, but I do have many traits and experiences in common with others here, and that is why I am here. My youngest brother does have a diagnosis though, but his is a graver case, and a son of one of my cousins is even worse, so it runs in the family.

I think its great that NT's come here to learn to better love their loved ones. Lovely intentions and spirit and very heart warming for me to see.

We aspies need all the friends we can get, even though we would tell you otherwise! We are just avoidant, from fear and disappointments

I originally signed on so that I could learn firsthand what may be going through my son's head because sometimes he is very un-communicative. Because of this contact, I learned a great deal and became a better parent. My son is more or less happy and thriving thanks in large part to this community.

After some time, I started to develop a very deep empathy and caring for some of the people I met here, and wanted to find ways to help people and give back to the community, and so then I tried to offer advice or at least encouragement. At first it was in the area I know best, parenting. But I don't think I've had much impact in parenting because either I don't relate to the other parents or they don't relate very much to me. So then I tried to befriend members on the spectrum because everyone needs friends, even in the virtual world. However, this has also proved challenging. So then I changed focus and have tried to become more involved helping in my local community and that has also been frustrating. Its very ironic: here you have a guy who wants to help improve the quality of life for others, but hasn't been able to find the right "fit" for accomplishing anything truly meaningful. But I haven't given up. I still do what I can locally. And every now and then I pop onto WP, reply to a few posts, try to spread optimism, offer advice when it makes sense.

If anyone reading this needs a friend, advice, or maybe just a few encouraging words, please send me a message. I don't check in very often any more, but I will reply to all messages eventually.

Sincerely, -DenvrDave

My question: how in the hell can NT's understand us when ALL of us are so uniquely different? What exactly are you guys looking to understand? Are there particular things that you focus on in the forums to see how the people you know with it are similar to other Aspies? Do you keep a checklist/diary on how to "get" why the people in your family/friends/lovers act a certain why, or why they do certain things, or is it more a mental list? I can barely understand half the people on here, although, I can relate with the vast majority. Do you guys see yourselves relating with us a lot of the time? I'm curious. Hopefully I don't sound angry in this post; I'm just yapping.