Parents took door handle off the door to my room- Weird?

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That is so awful of them.... SO they think that without a door handle you can't lock the door and that solves the "problem" I guess?
Did you stay locked in for days? I can't imagine what would prompt this.
Try talking to them about keeping their promise. Try to find out what problem they thought they were solving in this way, and offer a compromise or a solution.
Or, you could use the Bernouli effect happening inside your room (AC on) on the outside of the door to effectively lock it with air pressure! Fast moving air causes a lower pressure and the still air has higher pressure, thus pushing on the door. Does the door open in? I guess most bedroom doors do.... So that would mean the AC is blowing on the outside of your door? To unlock it, you need to blow a fan faster against the door than the AC is blowing that will cause the door to pop open.

Actually forget all of that it wouldn't work so well. However, I would tell the fire safety inspection people about the difficulty opening the door, as that is a safety problem.... Find the fire safety inpectors because if you just call the fireman, they may not have much to say and might be confused. I know that blocking escape from a door is a safety violation. You could just say you talked to them.....

I'd be careful about doing that. What if they then decide to take the whole door off?

This is terrible. My parents threatened to remove my door handle when I was a teenager because I locked myself in my room all the time but they never did it.

They paid for the house but you live there too and you have every right to your private space.

Have you explained to them how much it bothers you and why? As the others have said, it is a fire risk too.

Exactly.

I do not have an official diagnosis but I definitely believe that this is worthwhile mentioning when I do seek one (which I intend to do in the coming weeks). They'll just take it off again; it only takes a few minutes to take a doorknob off. It's really the principle of taking someone's door handle off that bothers me more than the actual practice.

It happened to me during grade school. The one I recall most clearly probably happened in the 5th grade. My mother had cooked chili from a packet mix and the beans she used had a texture that just felt wrong (not soft enough) and I actually got sick after I finished eating and threw it all back up. The weird part was being yelled at for "trying to get out of eating chili." I mean, I ate the chili, which caused the problem. I remember setting out to make chili some 13 or so years later and mistakenly using the same mix (it had dessicated/reconstituted onion bits in it too) and immediately recognized it as soon as I tried to eat it.

One that was more frequent was lettuce, as my mother made a particular salad with a lot of meals, and the rule was that I had to eat some of everything that was on the table, even if I hated it. And my father would occasionally try to force me to eat the salad, which invariably made me gag and more rarely vomit. I was always accused of faking it.[/quote]

I may not have fully explained this earlier, but the reason for me vomiting wasn't that I just disliked lima beans. I've always had a problem with the texture of most beans(I can eat a burrito or baked beans, but that's about it, and that's rare), but what made me vomit that day was simply that I'd eaten too much. I ate everything except the lima beans and tried to tell my grandma that i was full, but she just took it as "he doesn't want to eat lima beans," and made me sit there til I ate them... So I did, after which I threw up, which was somehow my fault too. By the way, I don't really eat chili either, just because of the texture of those damn kidney beans. If It had everything else that's normally in chili but no beans, I'd probably like it a lot.

Good point but you know, he could die in there. I didn't just mention the fire department as a trick to get his doorknob back. He could die. Really. As awful as it sounds, better no door than one you can't open in time to get out. I guess if they did this, he could remove their door sometime when they're not home, and take it for himself. Or put a blanket up.

He should not take their doorknob though. They could die.

I think in the meantime: he should try to find something that he can hook the door with somehow, and keep it near the door, so it can be pulled open easily and quickly if he does need to get out in a hurry.

I may not have fully explained this earlier, but the reason for me vomiting wasn't that I just disliked lima beans. I've always had a problem with the texture of most beans(I can eat a burrito or baked beans, but that's about it, and that's rare), but what made me vomit that day was simply that I'd eaten too much. I ate everything except the lima beans and tried to tell my grandma that i was full, but she just took it as "he doesn't want to eat lima beans," and made me sit there til I ate them... So I did, after which I threw up, which was somehow my fault too. By the way, I don't really eat chili either, just because of the texture of those damn kidney beans. If It had everything else that's normally in chili but no beans, I'd probably like it a lot.[/quote]

I had the same problem with cooked spinach -- could not swallow without gagging. Never did throw it up, but never was made to eat more than a bite. Not even pureeing it or adding a cheese sauce would make it go down.

I find it very interesting that the plant source foods I actually like today are ones that were not put on my plate labeled as vegetables (PARENTS TAKE NOTE!): cabbage, onions, peppers, potatoes, corn. Also, spaghetti sauce is almost all veggies, but I never noticed this until I was an adult.

Frankly, (PARENTS TAKE NOTE!) forcing me to eat what I found completely unappealing was counter productive. Cabbage, on the other hand was a rare treat. I not only love it, it is a comfort food to this day -- as long as it is cooked . I do like spinach, but only raw in salads, and it must be very very fresh. My favorite salad recipe starts with "take a bowl out into the garden".

Better to remain calm and leave him alone. He will come out when he gets bored. No one can stand being in their room constantly. They come out eventually and will come out much quicker without the drama.