Is your daily life a struggle no matter what you are doing?

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It struck a chord with me too.

Socializing and organizing are the things that stress me out the most. Other than those I manage OK, almost as much as a normal but "lazy" adult do. I know most adults can do a lot more than I can, I need to lower my standards a lot to be able to manage, but nobody in my family's starving or wearing dirty clothes, bills are paid and important things are done, so that's OK for now.

Quite a lot of the time associating with others stress me a lot, not because they were bad to me, but by being so different from me. It pains me to watch them do pointless things or make stupid decisions, yet it's not my business to say anything. But then I'm sure to them the "feel good" moment is quite worth it. What I consider is a waste of time and money might be priceless for them. i.e. Someone I know spent $400 on something to make fancy slideshows of his kids' pictures. As if anybody other than the parents would ever want to spend hours watching kids' pictures. (They wouldn't, would they?)

I think by reading most of this ,it tells me one thing ,that people with asergers suffer a great deal with their daily lifes
I also struggle day in and day out with the very same stress as some of you described..lack of interaction phobia loneliness...not being able to feel comfort in my life..and an over wellming feeling of no hope for the future..keep thinking it can only get better ..but it ends up getting worse, so understand how you guys feel ..nice to be able to let it out....even if it's just on a comp

I need to print out that "this is why I'll never be an adult" diagram and show it to people when they purport to call me one.
Yes......I certainly relate to this.

This this this. This post rings very true for me because this year I have finally been able to begin to attempt this feat after 30 years of overwhelm and confusion.

I finally got to a point n my life where I could begin to create an environment and lifestyle for myself which is sustainable for me without completely overwhelming me. I did it by dropping everything out of my life that I possibly could - the job I had (which could not possibly have been a more awful aspie job), all possible responsibilities and financial outgoings, and all the belongings I no longer need so I have a simpler and more easily maintainable space. I have no friends or family other than my mother, which is also necessary at the moment because social situations are the most stressful thing, and I am hoping that the chance to make a friend or two might be the next step after this one. Having done these things, which would probably seem very extreme to your average NT, things are finally getting better for me, but they are still hard. I drop back into the anxiety and overwhelm on a regular basis (like today, when I have a lot of things to do at once and I am overwhelmed and confused) but I am also able to climb back out of it again for long periods, and it is getting better.

The problem is I don't currently have a sustainable income and I need to figure out how to achieve one which isn't going to cause me to break down again - I dread having to get another job like the last one, I just couldn't do it after finding how much better my life is without it, so I am planning to start my own business so I can work from home.

I have been applying all of my mental and physical energy to achieving this task over the last six months and it is slowly paying off, so I hope the next phase of my life will be an easier one. If at all possible, I recommend everyone else do this too - just strip back your life to its barest possible components and keep only the parts which are absolutely necessary.

No, so much so that I feel like its all blurring together and that life is passing me by. I am just existing with no meaning or direction. There are moments of clarity where it hits me hard too but I usually do what I can to distract myself until it passes instead of taking any corrective measure. I kind of wish I felt worse about it because things would have to change then, it would either be that or I'd die.

Hi Alexi,

It has been a while since you posted this, but I'll give this a shot anyway.

I felt this way for my entire life. I sometimes still feel this way. But my life has been dramatically improved by the introduction of tinted Irlen lenses.

Something about them takes away the edge. I can see more broadly because my eyes aren't squinting (they were squinting in normal light!), which seems to prevent me from having that hyper-stressed mentality where my mind is collapsing in on itself.

If you cannot afford Irlen's services (they are expensive), then perhaps you could have your optometrist tint your lenses a few shades, or you can find some sunglasses in a shade that you enjoy. This sounds like a silver bullet -- it isn't. I struggle daily to keep my head on straight. But for a few days I realized that I hadn't been freaking out nearly as much as usual. I think I'm freaking out 5% of the time whereas it used to be something like 60% of the time. Yay!

Yes; it's always the smallest little things of daily life that turn into some kind of terrifying ordeal or crisis for me.