Am I the Lone Aspie Who Enjoys Being Alone?

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I love alone. I crave alone. I am at my best alone. BY alone I mean void of humans. I do not consider my cat to be an invader of my solitude. In fact, I quite require her company in order to get the most out of my solitude. She sets the best example of it.

I think Aspies are far more likely to enjoy being alone than is the case with most people. I mean, those other people out there can be really irritating, with their small-talk, irrational behavior, and interest in boring things, such as, say, team sports, cars, celebrity gossip, etc. When alone, I get to do whatever I want, without criticism.

When with others, I still do whatever I want, of course, but I don't know how to turn off my sense of hearing, and the criticism, and endless questioning, gets old. Those other people don't seem to be able to figure out that I really do not care, at all, what almost all of them think of me!

There are a few people whose opinions matter to me. I deliberately keep that list VERY short.

My long stretches of time alone are absolutely essential for maintenance of sanity.

No, of course not! For my birthday this year, I want to take a trip to New York alone. I went with my family last year, but I want to go by myself. I don't think my mom would buy into it, because she won't think I'm old enough.

I also spend like 90% of my day alone in my room on average and enjoy it thoroughly.

I love being alone.

My happiest time was in a flat overlooking the sea where I could sit and watch the town and spend as long as I wanted alone knowing that I could go socialise when I wanted and get recovery time alone.

Now I have house mates who come to see if I'm ok every day I can't relax/get anxious. Never realised how much time I need to be alone just to recover and has to be a continuous period. Not sure why best mate on Skype doesn't stress me only people in person/ telephone.

Got to say I don't get lonely at all in most cases but miss being in a relationship although she has to be relatively self reliant (hard to find these days)

I love being alone. Doing the things I want (reading, studying, internet, thinking, daydreaming) without interruption from other people. No small talk, emotions I don't understand, and so on.
Also, when I'm with other people I feel disconnected from myself, my body and the world. Like some sort of dissociation. When I'm alone I experience the opposite: I feel whole, in the sense that I'm one with myself and my body. I feel like I'm in my body and in the world. Like I'm real and a human being. Though at the same time when I compare my experience with others it's like I'm not a human being because they feel disconnected when they're alone and connected when they're with other people and I have it the other way around.
Does anyone recognize this?

What do you mean, you shouldn't feel any difference? Not feeling any difference sounds like indifference to life and people. By being alone I mean not a few hours but days or weeks. Most people would feel a difference, I guess?
Pressure could be a factor, yes. I also think sensory overload has something to do with it. But I still don't really understand it.. perhaps I will talk about this to my psychologist.

Definitely not the lone aspie, what about the aspies that never felt the need to search for forums about aspergers? I'm sure that aspies coming to this website are just the tip of the iceberg, there have to be a lot that are bothered so little by being alone that they never even bothered thinking about it, let alone posting a thread about it.