In general, how do Aspies turn out as adults?

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It is a pity I can't select two options:
Alone and happy
Successful, maybe rich

Both apply to me to a certain extent. I can deal with people without too many problems and I have a good job (self employed) that is enjoyable and pays very well. On the minus side I have very little social life, have never been in a relationship and anxiety is pretty much a constant companion. The social/relationship issues don't really bother me much these days.

I am 32 and have voted for alone and happy. I am single no children never married and can hold a steady job have trouble making friends and being in relationships I have in the past been sad and lonely.

I am an intelligent adult but lack social skills and have been employed steadily having had a few problems with working with others in the workplace over the years due to my social skills deficit and have more of a social life nowadays compared to a few years ago and can live alone I live away from my family and am a very independent woman.

I have in the past few years made progress socially especially in making friends in the relationship department I don't do well but I don't dwell on it and it doesn't bother me if I am single. I am alone but not lonely in that regard so have achieved some success even though it has been a real struggle.

I could not answer the question because it has varied so greatly at different stages of my life. I have been near "normal" both to the outside and inside, sad and lonely, functioning but unhappy, not functional and unhappy

Nowadays based on what society judges I am dysfunctional in a lot of ways living at home, no romantic sex life etc, no job but decently happy. I am still at home but I getting satisfaction in helping my parents with their aging issues, and since getting diagnosed last year getting great satisfaction in finding out who I am and being that person.

I AM STILL HERE. That is a accomplishment. While realistically my goals of getting back in the employment game in a way that satisfies me and allows me to feel financially comfortable are really low if I am alive their is a chance.

I haven't said this before because I don't know how people will take it, but the people I admire most here are the ones who have brutalized their entire life in ways beyond what I can imagine and are here to tell the tail. It just know if it was me that led your life I would have succumbed a long long time ago, likely dead,or so screwed up that in no way would I have the ability to post here. Yes you are damaged and damaged greatly in many cases and some of you are bitter and "whine" sometimes, but you are here and accomplishing things. I don't know how you did it but I am privileged to know you.

I am married and have two kids. I also have a job. My husband is a loner too and also has no friends like me. Anxiety makes it harder for me so my husband takes care of things because I find it so overwhelming.

Self picked 'taken care of entire life'. I am happy though, so far have intensive support to work on living skills.

I vote for "sad, lonely life." I might have voted for "alone and happy" but that depends on finding a way to be happy knowing you'll never have much of a peer group in your life.

I want companionship. Not a huge group, but some people I interact with meaningfully on a regular basis. I'd also like to have purpose...so that it's easier to cope with not having much of a social life.

Not like everybody else but happy, regardless.

At home/in government housing, usually unemployed (underemployed when employed), with few or no friends.

Honestly, I'm 20 years old and I hate adult life. The only thing I like about it is being able to buy my own booze. I hated adolescence as well, and honestly, if I had things my way, I would have quit aging at 10 years old. That was the peak of my life, when I had just the right balance of rights and responsibilities.

Sadly I had to pick the first. It was that way for me for a long time, but I'm pretty happy with my life now. I don't think it's inescapable though. It just takes a lot more effort for people on the spectrum. But IMO that can be a good thing because the harder you work for something the more you appreciate it. When you finally do develop some intimate friendships and hopefully even a love interest, you have a lot to give, and it has a lot more novelty to it than it probably does for people who just have such relationships fall in their lap.

I chose "alone and happy", meaning, that a large portion of aspies will be living alone, - partly because of their social dyslexia. By happy, I mean, that most aspies have trouble and unhappy times, when others just seem to swim easily through social life and they end up living alone, maybe with an animal - but absorbed by their interests, which they my make their work. That is a form of happiness.