Asperger's And Maturity: How slow did you grow up?

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My progress goes back and forth, and it also changes it's individual states.

Not 'slow' in my case.
More like, waking up with +2 ahead, tomorrow's a -5, then the day after's -.2, then more -.5 or so, then jumped to +6 and gradually reducing all day...
Certain cycle's a -2 or so, then randomly glimpsing +4 ahead...
Getting frustrated because the +.2 for then last few weeks jumps to -4.

And so forth and so forth..
There are times my maturity mainly stopped, only to suddenly keep up, and to stop again. Or, regress a few, then grow up again then stop, then regress...
So my 'milestones' is more of a 'range' than something more fixed.

It's like a roulettes of sorts, and a manual type at that.
Something is 'not automatic'...

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I’m 62 going on 150. I was forced to grow up fast. I didn’t have much of a childhood.

I’m still in the Wolfman stage

I really began to feel out of step with my peers just as I turned 11 and by the time I was 13 I felt like I'd been washed up on a lonely beach with a huge cliff in front of me, which I knew I couldn't climb and there was nowhere else to go. I couldn't grow up any further.

Prior to that I had been very mature in some ways, immature in others but I think you can get away with that as a pre-teen. Something happens around 12 where you just have to fit in or be condemned as abnormal forever, or at least that's how it felt. A huge part of me is frozen in that period and I want to wake up and be that person again so that I can try and put things right.

In some ways I matured the same as my peers, in other ways I still handled some things like a small child when I was a teenager.

If this question is more about mental and emotional maturity rather than physical, I would say I was still acting like a little kid during most of my high school years. The majority of my peers refused to understand what an Aspie was and in turn, this caused me to believe in the idea that I would be alone forever.

I grew up fairly quickly, due to death in the family. I was needed for housework, shopping for the family from a very young age. My father had me ironing all his shirts, etc at the age of 8 yrs, and doing most of the cooking as well. I feel it was a good thing, as I learned a lot of skills young, and grew to love housework. I can’t imagine ever being bored, and any free time, is spent on being creative, or swimming. Both physical and emotional maturity were “very” rapid.