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24 Sep 2012, 6:18 pm

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To me asperger women are like ''lesbians'' who like men and don't get along with other women very well.

Hahaha, actually I find that quite insightful. Only the way I see it is just that we tend to have a more "masculine" way of thinking. That can make it more difficult to bond with "feminine-minded" women because our interests, choice of conversation, and style of interaction are quite different. And when it comes to interacting with males, well, they can tend to find our "masculine mind" refreshing. We have the physique they are attracted to, and don't have all those girly traits they might find annoying.

Yes, huge generalisations, I know. I guess I'll say that I'm really just talking about myself, and no two aspies are the same, blah blah blah.

A lot of my NT male acquaintances LOVE girly traits :lol:

They can consider them annoying but... they need these traits. They need a girl wanting new make-up or a new dress. They need to believe they are masculine and their girlfriends are feminine. A lot of people feel confidence thanks to stereotypes.

And yes, huge generalizations here too but... I think I'm not too wrong...

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24 Sep 2012, 6:23 pm

BanjoGirl wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

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To me asperger women are like ''lesbians'' who like men and don't get along with other women very well.

Yes, huge generalisations, I know. I guess I'll say that I'm really just talking about myself, and no two aspies are the same, blah blah blah.

A lot of my NT male acquaintances LOVE girly traits :lol:

But wouldn't that mean that they're insecure in a way though? If they need women to be girly to feel powerful and masculine?

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24 Sep 2012, 6:27 pm

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A very simple answer is though that they are female it is as simple as that.
They care more about fitting in as do NT women.
They dont need to be strong or supporting with their "natural&society role"
They can have weaknesses
They chitchat much more about problems with NT friends

Do you have any evidence that these things are true of all females? I don't know about anyone else but I don't have any NT friends to 'chit chat' about my problems, and I don't consider that topic chit chat, chit chat is supposed to be light hearted.

Men have to show that they are strong. Which we are definitely not quite.
Men have to show that they can support. Women expect more from men than do men from women

No they don't...that's just what society encourages people to think, its not like its an absolute truth.

Men try, women choose. And men are not so really choosy as women...

That doesn't make any sense, I suppose men never have choices and women never try, except that is inaccurate.

Well if you can choose then why the hell should you take somebody that has problems
or is awkward. And what the hell are your friends going to say if you are with an aspie

Well not everyone is a jerk, some people don't look down on and refuse to associate with people that have problems that might have something to do with it. Or one has problems themselves and find someone who has simular problems that can understand what they go through.

those kind of things are in the game ...

But why the hell did you write about lesbians?
That has nothing to do with it.

Aspie women are just so much different than we are.
I'd prefer to be an aspie women I must admit though.

That would make things a hell lot easier I think ...
Allthough the demand from other females is probably quite annoying as well...

I don't like the sound of that 'game'....and it would make what exactly easier?

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24 Sep 2012, 6:30 pm

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In my personal experience, and following the advice of my dad, if I meet someone who says they have BPD who I'm not going to be forced to interact with, I'll mark them off as broken people I should avoid talking to. That might sound terrible, but being stalked is worse (though of course they're not all stalkers), let me tell you. My dad's actual advice was "If a girl tells you she has BPD, run away screaming. Wave your arms around too, so it looks funny, because all the world's a stage, you know. You got to avoid having them latch onto you. Think of it like this: they're heroin addicts who happen to have never touched the stuff. They get their fix by causing you stress".

Yeah because its not enough to judge someone as a potential stalker and avoid them because they have a mental disorder, might as well make a big scene of it to just too rub it in right? That sounds like a really disgusting bigoted view to have.

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24 Sep 2012, 6:30 pm

musicforanna wrote:

BanjoGirl wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

billiscool wrote:

To me asperger women are like ''lesbians'' who like men and don't get along with other women very well.

Yes, huge generalisations, I know. I guess I'll say that I'm really just talking about myself, and no two aspies are the same, blah blah blah.

A lot of my NT male acquaintances LOVE girly traits :lol:

But wouldn't that mean that they're insecure in a way though? If they need women to be girly to feel powerful and masculine?

Yeah, some of these people are insecure, they want something they can "predict", and a stereotype is something all of us can predict. Some men say girly traits are annoying but at the same time they want a girly girl.

Other people is just shallow or have prejudices against people that doesn't fit in the stereotype and some of them bully men and women that don't "fulfill" the gender cliché.

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24 Sep 2012, 7:20 pm

I'm a Aspie female and I agree with others on here you cannot stereotype us. For instance:
I cannot handle social situations at all and I have to take medication to handle walking around shopping centres with my family and friends.
I cannot express the right emotion for the right situation or I go overboard expressing for instance crying to extreme which is amusing to my Mum and friends.
I cannot read peoples faces or body language I do not know if I am upsetting anyone.
I do get along with men better than women all of my friends are Aspie males.
I cannot understand my own gender and all there quirks. I cannot stand my own gender. I do not understand gossiping.
I am abit of a Tomboy I love cars, 4x4 wheel driving, airplanes, music, computer games, horror, action movies barbeques and football.
That does not mean I am lezbian. I do not have anything in common with my own gender at all. I like men and rather look at them and hang out with them they are less complicated, no baggage, no drama queens, no fights and no vandettas or gossiping no stress and driving you nuts. I rather sit down watch the footy with male friends with a beer and take away and talk footy or go 4x4 wheel driving, have a beer while having a bbq talking cars, places to go 4 x 4 wheel driving or talk about computer games.

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24 Sep 2012, 7:33 pm

I do not understand or comprehend having a relationship or what goes on in a relationship. I do not know how to express the emotions which if I had a boyfriend he would want me to express. I have no idea what love is or how to express it or what the meaning of I love you is. I do not like people touching me and I enjoy being alone not having someone constantly annoying me and interfering when I am concentrating on my hobbies and interests unless they are into the same interest as me.

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24 Sep 2012, 9:06 pm

billiscool wrote:

I admit Im not an expert on autism disorder but I really want to know what are asperger women like in general for what I get is

* they can hid their disorder and fit in society
* they don't have alot of female friends
* they can make male friend and get relationship easier than men with autism disorder
*they get mistaking for bipolar often

To me asperger women are like ''lesbians'' who like men and don't get along with other women very well.
I might be wrong about this but this what I kinda of get by reading wrong planet for over 6 years.
I've always been interested in women with aspie, why. Main reason is that seem to be succesful disable people out there.
they can fit into society, They get married. They can go whole life without people even thinking anything wrong with them.
Where women with mental illness, serve autism, serve ocd, hoarding problem, Tend to struggle in all area of life.

No.

onks wrote:

Well you got a lot of reactions from aspie women.

And I think you are right with some of your thoughts.

A very simple answer is though that they are female it is as simple as that.
They care more about fitting in as do NT women.
They dont need to be strong or supporting with their "natural&society role"
They can have weaknesses
They chitchat much more about problems with NT friends

Men have to show that they are strong. Which we are definitely not quite.
Men have to show that they can support. Women expect more from men than do men from women

Men try, women choose. And men are not so really choosy as women...

Well if you can choose then why the hell should you take somebody that has problems
or is awkward. And what the hell are your friends going to say if you are with an aspie

those kind of things are in the game ...

But why the hell did you write about lesbians?
That has nothing to do with it.

Aspie women are just so much different than we are.
I'd prefer to be an aspie women I must admit though.

That would make things a hell lot easier I think ...
Allthough the demand from other females is probably quite annoying as well...

Also...no.

Carry on.

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24 Sep 2012, 10:21 pm

I'd like to hear more of what the OP would like to generalize. It would be interesting and fun to read. :lol:

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24 Sep 2012, 11:15 pm

I'm still waiting for mods to flip the tumblers on the rest of these threads, but before that I have a theory that all spectrumizens are born with the opposite brain for their gender, which makes me in essence a 'bull' with the correct plumbing! Ta dum pshh

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25 Sep 2012, 2:15 am

the first aspie lady/mom of television...

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25 Sep 2012, 2:32 am

I always thought they are pretty much like NT women only with more quirks. I havent met any aspie women in person though.

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25 Sep 2012, 4:34 am

THREAD LOCKED

This thread appears to be reiterating the same stuff that was in the locked thread 'Aspie women and boyfriends'.

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