Are all AS people slobs?

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I have a plethora of specific things which must be kept orderly and which must be kept clean and perfect, but if one were to view my tidiness as a whole then they would quickly see that I tend to neglect a whole load of things outside of these specifics.

Hi there, I just wanted to chime in and say that I am a very very clean Aspie. The very sight of clutter can throw me into overload, so I make sure that our home is as minimal in every area as possible. We own way less than most people that we know because of this. I'm also an organization freak. I have a complex and highly functional file system for our papers, I keep my husbands electronic do-hickies separated into small drawers, and have created a toy rotation system for my son to keep his interest. I am also very good at menu planning and keeping appointments. All of this is done in an attempt to control my anxiety, of course. And yes, laundry is done every other day so that it does not feel overwhelming. My husband washes it before work, and I dry and fold it. We also cloth diaper, so diapers are in the laundry rotation system as well. I should also mention that I'm kind of paranoid when it comes to saftey and cleanliness. If I'm damaging my son in any way in that department, it's because I wake him up too often when checking on him in the middle of the night, and annoy him with cleaning his hands far more often than he would ever need it.

As far as being a good parent, for us, it's a matter of whether or not we're willing to embrace our limitations when it comes to parenting. I had to be honest with myself and others about my inability to spend 10 hours per day alone with my son while my husband works. At first I was very ashamed because this did not fit into my idea of what an "ideal" mother is (stay at home), but I got over it. What we did was put him in daycare for 4 hours per day. This worked out perfectly because I was able to spend that time pursuing my special interests and making money freelancing (to pay for the daycare plus a profit), which in turn "recharged" me so that the time I spend with him in the afternoons truly is quality time. The daycare also provides him with an opportunity to socialize with other children, another area that I struggle with, as play groups often involve me being able to socialize with other mothers, which I generally have a hard time with (and dread). Furthermore, it forces us to have a very structured day and create a functional routine of changing clothes, bathing, grooming, etc. around that routine - as well as accountability from outsiders such as the daycare provider who I have made aware of our autism (because I want her to keep a close eye on us and tell us if something seems wrong to her - which hasn't ever been the case so far).

Sadly true. In some cases, they've been coddled all their lives and never taught to look after themselves.

I have no difficulties with doing my laundry.

I hate this thread because it is such a typical stupid question.


IF you can't tell me why I should clean, you can't expect me to clean.

If it's for hygiene than that can be taken care of.

If it's about being able to find stuff we will adapt.

However if your only reasoning is how it makes YOU feel, than you can't expect much. If you want a clean aspie make expectations that make sense.

Interesting. If you are suppose to be friends with this person, instead of being mean to her and putting her down on AS website which out of all honesty it is sick and putting down us AS people in general which is mean and nasty Do you have a problem with her? Have you had a fight with her and the only way to hit back at her is on a AS website? She may or may not be a member and read what you have put on here, just because she may have a messy room should not affect your friendship with her accept her for who she is be abit more understanding and supportive of her and accept her for who she is and do not be quick to judge her and call her names like a slob.

neither do GALS



First of all, there is more to parenting than cleanliness.
Second, I don't want children at all, but if I did, I would have made an effort.
I never let my pets suffer my mess; the aquarium was kept clean, the animals basics provided for. I have no reason to think that I would have been different with a child if I had wanted one. Also, I always put the pets before myself, and I would have done the same for the child. I'd be more concerned about the child's welfare than mine, and that the child was happy and could play and develop.

That said, there are other ways I can see myself being a bad parent. What if I couldn't communicate with the child?
I'm not one for hugging or touching people, I have a hard time expressing feelings of love; the child might feel neglected and unloved.
I don't know how to deal with people, including little children. I would feel hopeless in terms of raising them, teaching them values, dealing with difficulties.
And of course there is an economical part too. Unemployment isn't uncommon among us.

I can't stand clutter, I only like my own mess but I don't like things to be too messy. I sweep, do laundry, vacuum, do the dishes. Clean up my trash and always toss my dirty clothes down the laundry chute. I find messy homes disgusting. If none of this ever gets done, the mess will get bigger and bigger and then it be too much work to clean up and to do.

So yeah there are some clean aspies out there, my ex boyfriend who was an aspie was also clean. He called himself feminine. In fact he thought it was an aspie thing to be that clean and tidy and always organized and thought all of them were that way.

My loungeroom and bathroom are clean my patio is clean my bedroom is small and clean I do have alot of stuff which I have to put somewhere because I have no room anywhere else to put it because I live in a one bedroom unit, it may look untidy when its not and we all whether we ar AS or NT have things fall under the bed. I do vaccum it and dust every second day my dvds and cds are organised in alphabetical order and my books are in alphabetical order. I live in a set of units with NTs and they leave the unit complex a mess, leaving rubbish all over the place, in the carpark they are constantly leaving McDonalds bags, half full McDonalds cups with coca cola in them, Red Bull, V cans, Jim Beam cans, beer bottles, coffee cups, water bottles and empty cigeratte packettes, cigeratte butts everywhere, they leave empty McDonalds bags, Red Rooster, Hungrey Jacks bags, cigeratte butts, tissues, beer bottle tops, napkins from McDonalds in the garden of the units I'm in and out the back they put their food rubbish in a garbage bag and throw it out the back garden and not put it in the bin and it stinks. They throw old blankets out the back and leave them there and they throw beer bottles, jim beam cans and beer bottle tops, they don't sweep out their front doors and they have leaves, branches and rubbish all over the place and the units I am in are new units. It took the real estate agent three times to tell these NTs to clean the mess in the industrial bin we have that we all have to share to get these NTs to clean it up.

When we first moved into our house, I found some clothes in the blackberry bushes and my dad guessed they were taken off by someone who were changing clothes as they were running away from a cop. There was some trash back there too and I found trash in our bushes in our front yard. I frown upon people who litter. I have even seen people do it in real life and I so want to say something but I don't due to not liking confrontations. I just feel annoyed with it when I see it.

I'm neither of the two extremes. I like things to be reasonably tidy and clean, but I'm not OCD about it. I do like the nice satisfied feeling you get when you've cleaned the house and things are looking and neat and clean once more. What annoys me is that it always gets messed up again and you have to do it over and over again.

Reasons to clean and tidy:

You should clean because an accumulation of dust and germs and crumbs of food and hairs and things lying around is bad for your health. You are breathing the germs in and they are irritating your lungs without you knowing it, and you are touching them as well.

You should tidy things and pick them up from the floor because they are a trip hazard and are getting dirty when you are standing on them and dust and crumbs are falling on them.

Not doing those things is lazy. There is no good reason not to do them, really, unless you are bed-ridden or something.

Also, speaking for myself, having clean and tidy surroundings greatly lessons my anxiety and makes me feel relaxed and pleased.

Plus if you don't pick up after yourself, you can get ants and rodents. Plus if you have children, you don't want to expose them to dirt and germs and all. You don't want your baby crawling all over the dirty floors and putting their mouths on them. I just hear dirty floors and dirty homes are not good for children to live in, especially babies and small children.

Yes, I agree but I recently found that a good way to use a lot of extra energy is to either clean or build with legos, I just had to include that.

As you know, all aspies are different, my personal experience has been that some aspies are very very self obsorbed. I would say more autistic. I have found that those aspies are unfortunealty more concerned about themselves and their wants and needs then what is best for a child. No matter who you are, aspie or NT- a good parent will put a child's needs before their own.

This, of course, is only my opinion.

That`s kinda dynamic issue. Having carpets in a home is horrid for ones health, yet there is no stigma to having carpets in a home

This is where you gotta be very careful on your reasoning.

As I said, I`m a slob but hygenic. I don`t have dirty clothes on my floor for long, usually clean even if I can`t be bothered to fold it. Also I can`t stand house plants, ruggs, or any other useless filler in my home. So the idea a stack of clothes being an issue I don`t think is true at all.