are you bored by small talk?

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Yes yes yes yes yes!

It's just not interesting and if I can't think of anything to say I rather not even be there.

I can do it on meds. Well, I'll talk about anything on meds.

i am not sure what "small talk" is.
i have heard many references to it, but i have never been able to calculate whether what someone says is "small talk".
i do not automatically ascribe the attribute of "small talk" to a conversation that i am not able to participate in.
i am not a snob. i do not dismiss conversation i do not understand as "small talk".

people say what they say because they have the urge to say what they say. it is like birds and crickets who chortle their song in a similarly predictable way.

small talk looks small i guess from the vantage point of logical appraisal, but there can be carried in an unidentified way a cognitive easement by trying to work out why others consider what they think is important is worthy of consideration.

Im not really bored by it, more i dont really know how to do it. My draws a blank after the usual niceties which leads to awkward silences. Id really like to learn how to do it with more ease.

I would say: Small talk is sharing of not necessary informations to show your opposite your interest.

As example when friends of mine have been on vacation, i know that they want to tell us about it, because they like talking, to show us they like us. -.-

So i dont need the information of how their hotel have been, how their flight was, if the cooking was ok, what they have visited and so on in any way and both me and my opposite know that. Still they like to talk, so i learned how to show interest, if i have the energy to do so.

An example for the opposite would be if i talked to one of my working collegues of new advantages and information of fire safety in buildings. So its not my special interest, but still these are usefull informations i will put to use in my work sooner or later.

So both topics do not meet my interests, but while the first one is talking because of talking, which is small talk for me. The second one is talking to share useful information. (So when talking about the vacation of my friends, i also get information, but as long as i hate holiday trip, i will never have any use of an information regarding a hotel 2000 miles away.)

This would make the world a better place - everybody gets a daily word budget. Let's say 500 words. After that you have to shut up until tomorrow. No more smalltalk.

No, not at all

No, I get more bored when people harp on about themselves, or about people I don't know at all. It's OK sometimes, but it depends on the context.

Small talk is OK, because I am quite obsessed with the weather so I am good with saying about the weather (no, I don't monologue on about the weather, I am too shy to do monologues to people, except close relatives). Also often buses or bus-drivers get brought into small talk, like when you're waiting for a bus and some friendly person in the bus stop makes small talk, and I'm obsessed with bus-drivers so I can get away with having a sneaky few words about it, also being able to disguise my obsession. Some people might say things like ''oh the bus is late today'' or ''I had a really nice driver yesterday....'' and so on.

Yep, small talk is better than whatever the other types of conversation are called, because you don't have to say much.

Hey, is that the new iPad you have there... it's so cool isn't it? My friend has just got one of those for his birthday - he's a Gemini, you know. Anyway, we were watching TV last night and he suddenly turned to me and said...

Is that what you mean? I only ask because I'm never sure what small-talk actually is, which is probably why I don't do it. I think small-talk can be useful. For example, you go for a job interview (OK, maybe not in England, Spain, Portugal, or France ) and you are feeling nervous. While you are waiting to go in the secretary talks some small-talk and helps you relax. That's OK. But deliberate small-talk in a normal social situation I just don't get it.