Why is honesty so unwelcome...

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If I don't like the Christmas gift you got me, I'm not going to sit here and write a thank you letter to the person telling them how much I love it. I'd rather be honest so the person knows better the next time.

And then people get upset. Why? You didn't know I wouldn't enjoy your gift. It's better you know now, then ask me about it later, and I already returned/regifted it.

I actually prefer the honest response. Maybe its just because by being alone you become cynical.

But i make something and people dont like it, they can just say it, its not like gonna be sad or something. I prefer truth above lies.

Even more i cant even lie to people i know, i simply cannot lie to like my mother, because the illusion breaks very fast,

If people ask me something they better well be prefered for an honest answer or they shouldn bother asking. im not around to lie to make people feel good or something.

But maybe its because some of us, because of what or who we are, we learn to deal with the truth of life, that lies isnt all happiness and rossy and stuff. I get this idea that most people live in some sort of sphere bubble if you will, they have all these ideas about them selves and such, which just doesnt reflect reality.

How can you be happy if going around lying and being told lies ?. that seems so off. Because normally if people find out you lie about something, they get pissed.

People don't want you to lie about everything. It all depends on the situation. There's lying and there's lying.

It's like the question "Do these jeans make me look fat?" Even if the answer is yes, pretty much every man alive knows that you have to say no to that question. To say otherwise is a death sentence! The reason is that no one wants to be told they're fat, they want to be told "Oh no you look beautiful!" So even if you speak the truth, many times they'd prefer to believe a lie than to be exposed to that truth. Me personally though, I'd prefer complete honesty, even if it does hurt a bit to hear it. I'd rather have no delusions about what someone thinks, than to have their responses veiled with white lies.