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What is your sexual identity?

Asexual	17%	[ 37 ]
Bisexual	12%	[ 27 ]
Demisexual	6%	[ 14 ]
Grey-Asexual	4%	[ 8 ]
Heterosexual	45%	[ 100 ]
Homosexual	8%	[ 18 ]
Pansexual	5%	[ 11 ]
Other	4%	[ 9 ]

Total votes : 224

Dan_Undiagnosed
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13 Dec 2012, 7:45 pm

Yeah I put hetero but looking back at some older posts I've written on here it sounds like I was describing demisexual. I'd never heard of it though, I should have looked it up before I voted.

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13 Dec 2012, 8:52 pm

I selected Bisexual, but I have to totally agree with this fella here. never understood this.

Dizzee wrote:

I think I'm 100% Heterosexual but not so open about it like most NT's are. "Hey check out that chick with nice ass" - some of them are just too vulgar about it.

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14 Dec 2012, 1:34 am

Chaos_Epoch wrote:

I selected Bisexual, but I have to totally agree with this fella here. never understood this.

Dizzee wrote:

I think I'm 100% Heterosexual but not so open about it like most NT's are. "Hey check out that chick with nice ass" - some of them are just too vulgar about it.

Yeah, like it's not enough to just look and be happy within yourself that you're seeing someone attractive. Maybe people feel like they need some sort of group affirmation.

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14 Dec 2012, 2:25 am

Dan_Undiagnosed wrote:

Chaos_Epoch wrote:

I selected Bisexual, but I have to totally agree with this fella here. never understood this.

Dizzee wrote:

I think I'm 100% Heterosexual but not so open about it like most NT's are. "Hey check out that chick with nice ass" - some of them are just too vulgar about it.

Yeah, like it's not enough to just look and be happy within yourself that you're seeing someone attractive. Maybe people feel like they need some sort of group affirmation.

How do you find people who are likely to reciprocate your attractions, if you don't have a group to turn to? Especially with the assumption of heterosexuality that most people carry? Explicit declaration of one's orientation makes it easier to become part of the relevant community and interact with compatible people.

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14 Dec 2012, 7:39 am

Bisexual, but most of the time I'm more attracted to men (I'm female). It's like 70 percent straight, 30 percent gay.

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14 Dec 2012, 8:01 am

Verdandi wrote:

Dan_Undiagnosed wrote:

Chaos_Epoch wrote:

I selected Bisexual, but I have to totally agree with this fella here. never understood this.

Dizzee wrote:

I think I'm 100% Heterosexual but not so open about it like most NT's are. "Hey check out that chick with nice ass" - some of them are just too vulgar about it.

Yeah, like it's not enough to just look and be happy within yourself that you're seeing someone attractive. Maybe people feel like they need some sort of group affirmation.

Yeah, that's what I was going for. Thanks, you kinda nailed it

I guess I don't see the need for that kind of group strategy. I know I'm usually the weird but nice guy that gets a girl after we've been friends first for a while. There's no 'Wow, look at those t**s!' with other people hoping they'll put in a good word for me. I just hang out with someone and if I start to feel something for them I just tell them. Some male friends have been shocked by this in the past like they think that's bold but I'm more impressed by all their game playing and pick up lines and the amount effort they put in by going out drinking and stuff. To me that's bold because I can't/won't do it.

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14 Dec 2012, 8:19 am

Dan_Undiagnosed wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

Dan_Undiagnosed wrote:

Chaos_Epoch wrote:

I selected Bisexual, but I have to totally agree with this fella here. never understood this.

Dizzee wrote:

I think I'm 100% Heterosexual but not so open about it like most NT's are. "Hey check out that chick with nice ass" - some of them are just too vulgar about it.

Yeah, like it's not enough to just look and be happy within yourself that you're seeing someone attractive. Maybe people feel like they need some sort of group affirmation.

Yeah, that's what I was going for. Thanks, you kinda nailed it

I'll just say that the above strategy (not yours, what I was describing for me) never got me very far. Mostly because I am rubbish at personal relationships like that and I lose interest quickly.

I think you might be onto something with that "be a genuine friend and honestly express interest" strategy you have going sounds clever.

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15 Dec 2012, 9:50 pm

I chose pansexual.

I wondered about bisexual, but really it's not male or female sexual attributes that attract me so much as I get very attracted to a whole range of different people, of both genders.
I feel like my sexual attraction scope is infinite; so many men and women are so interesting physically and mentally.

I could settle on one individual very loyally however. It's a paradox.

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15 Dec 2012, 11:50 pm

You are either are straight, gay, bi, or asexual. Thats it, it's not like theres a 3rd gender, it is really not that complecated.

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16 Dec 2012, 12:34 am

Kaelynn wrote:

You are either are straight, gay, bi, or asexual. Thats it, it's not like theres a 3rd gender, it is really not that complecated.

There are many more than three genders. There are only two socially acknowledged genders in some modern societies, but this does not reflect reality.

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16 Dec 2012, 12:44 am

Kaelynn wrote:

You are either are straight, gay, bi, or asexual. Thats it, it's not like theres a 3rd gender, it is really not that complecated.

It is more complicated than that. There are more than 2 genders, and there are sexualities beyond that. I am not straight, gay, bi, or asexual. My gender is also more complicated than "female" or "male".

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16 Dec 2012, 1:05 am

I identify as heterosexual because I am only attracted to men. Since I would only want to have sex with someone I have feelings for, would that make me demisexual? I still find random guys attractive based on looks, but that doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. The heterosexual/demisexual difference has got me a bit confused now.

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18 Dec 2012, 2:09 am

To clarify: demisexual means you can only feel the sexual attraction when you have already developed an emotional or romantic connection. It has nothing to do with want or desire or behavior.

The way I see pansexual is that it's more a general sexual attraction not bound by gender at all. Also, it includes transgendered and agendered (as well as many others which you may be able to find with a bit of research).

I wouldn't say it's wrong to want to have sex with someone who you don't know. The problem here comes from people thinking they're entitled to it without getting to know someone when that's not what most people want. I personally see nothing wrong with casual sex both parties agree on.

A lot of confusion here is where a lot of the confusion people have about their own identities comes from. It's not easy to understand what you're attracted to—especially when your identity can be completely thrown off by one outlier. I spent an entire year believing I was demisexual until I started to understand the difference between sexual, sensual, and romantic attraction. I currently identify as asexual.

Ca2MgFe5Si8O22OH2 wrote:

Matthew0440 wrote:

whirlingmind wrote:

what is grey-asexual and demisexual?

Grey-asexual is when you sometimes feel sexual attraction and demisexual means you can only experience sexual attraction towards someone who you've had an emotional or romantic connection with.

if romantic connection doesn't affect sexual attraction to someone I think you're a sociopath, not a non-demisexual. demisexual strikes me as feminist academic jargon for a decent person who doesn't base their sexuality on sexual objectification from advertisements. sex without any emotional or romantic or personal connection at all is just using another person as a masturbation toy. if there's mutual consent I'm not saying that that kind of sex is automatically wrong...but if that's the only way you get off then you are...damaged.

I'm same-gender-loving, but confused about what my gender is right now so sort of grey-asexual at the moment but homosexual in general? possibly hetero if I transition to the opposite of my gender assigned at birth? though the idea of being hetero kind of grosses me out. male/female power dynamics are immensely f**** up, and I prefer to relate to people as subjects and not objects, which isn't something straight men as a whole seem particularly fond of doing, given the rape epidemic in the US.

also people I've had romantic feelings for in the past define the body-types that I find attractive now. e.g. I have a crush on a professor with really big silly ears that stick out to the side more than normal. it would be consistent with past experience if in the future, even after I'm no longer fixated/crushing on this professor, for me to find people with big ears more attractive, all other things held constant, just because a person with an attractive personality had that physical trait in the past.

I think people tend to go for the most generically "attractive" person they can because they're so generic they're like a blank canvas onto which fantasies and ideals can be projected. for plain old no-strings-attached sex that's one thing, but allowing that to be your primary sexual drive for choosing a life partner just seems like a horrible idea to me.

Emotional connection does have an effect on attract, but most people still feel some attraction without the emotional connection.
Also, I wouldn't say it makes you sick in the head at all. Some people are just aromantic.

It sounds like a lot of your identity comes from how much you relate to others and not so much what you yourself are attracted to. I wouldn't say you're grey-asexual, either—just unsure. Grey-asexual means, most of the time, you feel absolutely no sexual attraction.

People work in different ways and I figure, as long as they're not hurting anyone, there's nothing wrong with it.

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demisexual strikes me as feminist academic jargon for a decent person who doesn't base their sexuality on sexual objectification from advertisements.

That's a common misconception. Demisexual is based on attraction, by which I mean the chemical responses in your body that cause arousal when you see someone attractive.

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18 Dec 2012, 10:29 am

Demisexual (Heterosexual)

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18 Dec 2012, 1:01 pm

Gay as a bear. When I was younger, I had more heterosexual feelings, but as I hit puberty, my sexuality slowly slid more towards bisexuality and then eventually homosexuality. I haven't been attracted to a girl in years.

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19 Dec 2012, 5:41 am

didn't know there were so many sexualities...damn....

no offense but im pretty annoyed by the increasingly sexed up population....

seems everything on tv is sex this or sex that...

just one persons opinion.......could do without the influence....makes me tune out more and more.

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