physical fights, do you prefer to ditch the blah ?

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This is pretty much my fighting experience, dealing with bullies. No words, no posturing, no BS. Once I knew I was fighting, I let it rip.

I see nothing wrong with taking care of things one-on-one in private on your own time and terms and using the element of surprise. If there are no witnesses it doesn't really matter if you take the first swing because nobody will know how it really went down. If you're shy, socially awkward, and won't trade verbal insults bullies see that as a sign that you won't ever defend yourself no matter how far they push the envelope. They could see that I was timid and fearful on the outside but couldn't see the anger they were stirring underneath. Idiots.

I always fought with plenty of people around. Not that I preferred it that way, but I think it was when the anger reached its boiling point. One time, it was right in the middle of the school courtyard, and a bunch of people saw, including the assistant principal. And, yes, they could never see what was bubbling beneath.

Not all NTs like physical fights. Where I come from, the only types of people that do physical fights are children, teenagers or drunk people. Otherwise, most descent adults wouldn't want to physically fight but to just walk away. I can't imagine any of my mum's friends fighting, for example.

I remember attacking a boy I didn't know on my way home from school because he kept touching my bum. I was already feeling a bit stressed because of friendship issues in school and all my exams were coming up, and I just couldn't be doing with a stranger touching my bum, so I lashed out and attacked him. I didn't really hurt him, and he didn't fight back. I suppose he wasn't expecting me to do that. I do feel guilty for doing it, even now when I remember it, and I wonder if he will never forget it. Luckily he didn't recognise me in school after that.

I'm too much a geek to be a fighter.

I was always very bad at the 'blah.'

I'm told it's an American thing. In Russia, if somebody wants to fight you they won't even say anything, they'll just deck you and go from there. My brother tells me it's the same with Asians in Hawaii.

it is a pity that mace is not legal to possess in australia. at the first instance that the aggressor raises his voice, one could whip out the mace without warning and drench their head with it while they are in mid sentence, then peacefully leave the situation.

i may get a bit "trigger happy" if i had mace though. i can imagine walking toward an open doorway with someone walking in the opposite direction toward me, and if one of us has to give way, mace would make the decision.

Well, I haven't been in a fight since junior high, and I don't suspect I will, but I'd much rather do the blah blah dance than fight and likely lose and get the cr** beaten outta me. The one fight I had in junior high almost skipped the blah blah part all together. I was in a bad mood, she baited me and I went for her. Thankfully we were broken up pretty quickly. I say thankfully because I wouldn't have won.

I got in a lot of fights through high school and even during college. I never got into shouting matches, I was always very business-like about it.

I remember the last "fight" I was in, a guy was being a dick to somebody else and I said, "Dude you're being a dick, stop." And he kept doing what he was doing and I said, "I'm going to kick your ass." I warned him several times. Eventually I said, "let's go". He got up, I got up, we went to an empty room, closed the door, and I pummeled the **** out of him. He didn't really put up much of a fight - I remember he didn't even have his hands up when I started hitting him. He said he didn't think I was serious

Another funny example of aspieness from high school... I was on the bus, and this kid who was sort of picking on me walks by and spits in my face! I just sat there in my seat because I knew I'd be the one to get in trouble if I fought him on the bus. I got off the bus at his stop and smashed his face in with my knee. He didn't pick on me or anybody else anymore after that...

Helps to be a boxer.

I've since realized that getting into fights as an adult is a really really really bad idea, though. Especially if it's with a person you don't know. You don't want to get in trouble with the cops, but more importantly who knows if the other guy has a weapon, or if 5 of his buddies are standing around the corner. I haven't been in a fight in many years now, and really haven't even come close to a situation where I would even think about it. I guess as an adult I've gotten pretty good at just avoiding the people and situations where it could potentially happen.