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perhaps its because it focuses on a IQ number as oposed to actual inteligences?
from an outsider view of it,it woud sound like someone cares to much about having something to show/appearances to hear them be joyful over a IQ number instead of being joyful over the actual skills/qualities have got that high inteligence gives?
more realisticaly it starts to make sense though,seeing as have got low self esteem,as its something can show people to encourage feedback which in turn encourages self pride.

try refer to the actual skills have got as a result of having that IQ instead of a number,and people may be less likely to see it as something bad/a threat.
take the hacking community for example,so many genuine hackers [not script kiddies or anons who get daddy to pay for a crappy dDoS program to do all the work] hate being refered to as hackers because of the hacker culture which has been watered down and hate the attention placed on them for their ability,many people with high IQs feel the same way.

society has become so obsessed with putting people on hierarchies of worth based on their IQ,it can be a sore point for some and pressure for others when they hear someone elses IQ.
plus IQ doesnt always determine actual smarts, it depends on how the person uses what they have;theres not much good having a IQ number of ... if it only gets put to ridiculous things like getting drunk/stoned/criminal activities for example.

I also think it would be great for you to look at other characteristics about yourself that you can feel good about that don't have anything to do with IQ or intelligence. By the way, I love that your dad is your role model, that is awesome. And that is a good one, you have a great relationship with your dad. Not everyone can say that. That is something you can feel really proud of and really good about. I am sure there are many things about you that you can feel great about that don't involve your IQ. You should be very proud of the fact that you are intelligent, not in an arrogant sort of pride but in a healthy kind. But you have many other things about yourself to be proud of also I am sure. I think when you discover these other things it will help because sharing those things with your friend will relieve some of that pressure she might be feeling and you may find things in common that you can talk about together. But sometimes if your IQ is very high, it can make others insecure because they feel like they can't measure up and that can make them feel hurt. But people have all kinds of great qualities and gifts and so do you, so if IQ is not the only standard by which we judge, then I think it makes things much better.

Life has taught me that if I show any kind of intellect people will think I'm being arrogant. Even the way I talk is thought arrogant by people and results in negative kinds of attention or thinking by others. Cannot work around it either as trying to sound casual comes off awkward at times. I think people would forgive all my quirks if not for that.

That's sadly reinforced by the way I think that is sometimes (casually and without intent) arrogant. I can own that.

But maybe it's more an issue of bluntness / lack of social grace to mention IQ. Maybe it's easier to just make some joke about it so people can laugh about it and just not feel bad for not having high intellect.

Someone once suggested to me that using wit is a way around not being liked for intellect - ie only use that side of it publicly.

I love a good sense of wit. It shows creativity as well as intelligence. Sometimes I am witty but it usually comes way after the fact like the next day! I guess I have slow wit! I find myself laughing wishing I had thought to say whatever it was sooner and in the moment. But it's all good!

Hey Savvyindentity, I wrote a short post!! Haha!