Do you FEEL like NTs are all somehow older than you?

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For me. It works in "both" directions. My intellect is way too advance and mature for my age but on the flip side. My emotions are way too ret*d and immature for my age. Now if I could just figure out a way to get those two forces to cancel each other out. I might become NT.

I do feel this way....I think it's because NT people who around my age and younger appear to be developing evenly, and in many ways I've remained a child.

Don't have time for my own response, but this more or less sums it up for me!

I feel exactly the same. Somehow I feel like a helpless, less experienced person compared with people around my age. So naturally I feel that they are older than I but often they are not. I believe it's their social experience/confidence that makes them look like that. Or rather it might be our lack of social experience/confidence that makes us feel younger.

It is. If you adopt a "serve my self-interest"-attitude you will soon enough feel just as "grown up" as them! The difference is that they naturally have that attitude while we have to consciously put it on through our academic intelligence.

Well, somehow my daughter is older than me[not in appearance] so I guess so.

I am currently struggling with that right now; my family treats me like a small child, definitely not the way most parents treat their twenty-year-old children. It frustrates me because they still think they can tell me what to do as if I were an adolescent. I am less emotionally mature than most NTs my age, but not as much as my family seems to think.

My brother will be 20 a week from today, has in his short life had several sexual relationships AND drives a not-so-old Lincoln.

Of course, he dropped out of high school and works 55+ hour weeks. And that Lincoln? It's a salvage title car. Can't quite register it in NY.

And I'm the college graduate. Counting my four non-full siblings, I'm the only one so far that's finished high school (one is entering high school this year, but he will do fine). Three have dropped out, one of which is probably dyslexic.

Then again, my two stepbrothers have a psycho mother, so that hasn't helped things either (their father is married to my mom, so don't get any ideas!)

But my older stepbrother and younger full-brother? Yes, I still feel like a fifteen year old.

I do feel younger then many people I've met in my own age group, people are shocked sometimes to find out that my sibling is younger then me and I'm the oldest. It makes me feel out of place among people in my own age range, but I have found a few people to hang out with I feel like suffer from the same issue. I think it could be a mixture of my lack of adherence to social norms vs. what people expect of adults, my semi dependance on other people which I'm trying to break free off, and my naive optimism.

I've never really thought about it before though.

I can't say that I've ever felt this way, although people generally talk down to me as if they suspect that I'm younger than I am because of how uncomplicated I see most things. It's rather insulting actually. Not really the same thing, but along the same lines.

This.

I'm so glad I found this forum. I've been so depressed and alone for so long, it's nice to know that there is a community of people who feel the way I do.

I'm in medical school and I feel like the camper with my classmates being the camp counselors. I feel younger (and people treat me as such). People are nice to me to my face but the prospect of taking me out to the bar with them probably feels like taking a young teenager out to the bar with them so it just doesn't feel right to invite me.

I wish I were normal. I see nothin lg good about the world seeing me like a big baby instead of one of their peers.

Definitely. So much so that I used to have many a shutdown and meltdown trying to close the gap. Since then, I've stopped, and felt a lot better about myself Yeah, the gap is there and it's annoying, but you gotta take it at your own pace. If others can't understand that, then they can go away.

This is how I feel too.

Inside I still feel 14 even though I am 48.

yes though i just want to be a teenager forever i'm scared about being 19, it's weird though because when i was 10 i was very independent and mature though this could be to do with when i lived abroad and my mum worked a lot so i was left to my own devise though when i moved back at 12 i wasn't like that i feel like everyone at 18 has done everything and i seem like I've been sheltered or something though having no friends from the age of 13-17 probably accounts for that i also look more like 15/16

I'm not sure how I feel these days, but it is rather worrying that people my age are getting on with their lives and I'm still sitting here where I've sat for the past five or six years (well not constantly, but it doesn't feel like I've made much progress in the past two years at the least)

In terms of my abilities, I've always felt light years behind, but in terms of physical age, probably feel the same as everyone else.

I feel like the NTs in my class are the same age as me as they are, just more 'wise'.
Even though I know that's not always true, but with things like social skills, they seem to know everything to me.