When a personality type maxes out your nervous system

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People I can't stand are:
-Those that are always complaining about how bad their life is;
-Those who are always complaining about how this is misogyny, this is misandry, that is abuse, that is homophoby, etc.;
-People who don't want to work despite the fact they would be able to (I f***ing hate them because I'm gonna have a lot of troubles with work in the future due to my issues and I don't even know if I'm ever going to find a job. It's improbable that I'm going to be able to work out of my house);
-People who tell me to put more emotion in my voice/face (none of their f***ing business. Also if I keep a "poker face" and a monotone it's probably because they make me feel uncomfortable; I can smile/laugh around people that make me feel comfortable);
-Those who threaten to kill themselves and/or tell everyone about their self-harm sories when they don't want to actually kill themselves (or say they want to just for a stupid reason like "because mommy hasn't bought me that new mobile phone") and/or don't actually self-harm and say those things just to get attention or to get what they want;
-Bullies;
-Pretty slim girls who complain about how ugly and fat they are and that despite treating guys like s**t they have them all arund them.

Me+forced and extended presence of those people near me=rage, war, knives, blood, corpses

I don't like emotionally unstable people either. It's unusually hard for me to understand their feelings, so I often concentrate too much on their emotions to try to make sense of them. I usually get more confused and more drained the longer I spend with those people.

I have a real problem with authoritative types. I don't mean to put anyone down who served in the armed services, but the type I am talking about is the ex-marine drill sergeant type. Comes down to it, I have a real problem with anyone who says to me, "You will do this!" Oh boy. My immediate response is, "Wanna bet?" Some one says to me, "Hey, will you do this?" then it is not a problem at all. Reverse it and well, let's just say that it has gotten me very close to either being thrown in jail or fired more than once. Come to think of it, close to being tossed out of school a couple of times as well. Now mind you, it is not that I am stubborn in anyway, oh no dearie not at all! Not little ole innocent me!

Oh, here's another one I just remembered. The type of person who has no interest in hearing rational explanations of technical matters. For example, they are using something and it breaks down. You are good at troubleshooting, so you take a look and find the problem, and fix it. While you are explaning to them what happened (and not in a long-winded way either, just the sequence of events that led to the problem and what you're doing to fix it), they start rolling their eyes or talk over you, or just walk away. How insulting, especially when you want them to understand...

Another variation on this is when you mention a person in relation to a technical matter, and the annoying person immediately starts asking you questions about that person's personal life... "are they married?" "how many children do they have?" "what's their background?" I'm like, "s*&^, I don't care - we were talking about fluid dynamics! I don't give a darn about the guy's personal life, nor did I ask!"

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Narcissists love Aspies. They gravitate towards us because we are the perfect "sidekick" to them. I hate narcissists. I knew a narcissist who I thought was my best friend. It's a miracle I managed to get away from him. Never again.

I have spent much time learning to ignore or avoid authoritarians, bullies, time wasters and parasites, so they are not my primary concern. I don't care much about narcissism ; I don't mind people explaining how great they are as long as they don't say other people are worthless or otherwise crush them, it is just useless noise but nothing of concern. (It is probably because I hardly know jealousy, so I don't care about their "success", real or imaginary.)

The worst people I can think of are those who are able to exploit my autistic tendencies to exert control on me. They are people who are able to have a (really) interesting discussion, for example on scientific topics, but will use it as an excuse to take over the social situation and assert domination in a subtle way. I don't really understand how it "works" but I can now somehow feel how this is happening, and then I stop talking and go away when faced with that kind of toxic personalities.

I've had a lot of problems with these types on several of my previous workplaces. I theorise that this is what really got me fired from the factory (as opposed to my production rate).

I've actually had a very overwhelming experience with a different kind of authoritative type. One evening, I was at a sort of socio-cultural get-together, and this older man walks in whom I had not met before. He seemed nice enough in the beginning, but when it came to certain topics, he would only want to see his own opinion established, without any backtalk. When I tried to bring in some logical arguments, he'd bend them around on me (not by providing reason, but by more or less talking me down). On top of this, he also seemed to exude this pressing aura (I normally don't believe in auras, but I have a hard time phrasing this in any other way). I felt physically under pressure simply by being in the man's presence, and it did not feel pleasant. I was literally shaking. And he could likely tell from my body language that he was pounding me into the ground. One of the worst experiences I've ever had with another human being that wasn't an actual fight.

That to me sounds like she is flirting with male workers (has she ever asked a female workers for similar assistance?). I am sure she knows she can do it herself.

I have a hard time being around individuals who have psychosis - my body becomes physically distressed around them. Once, I actually became sick (vomited) after interacting with quite a number of them during one work day. I also have a hard time being around people who are narcissistic and volatile (they are set of when told 'No', and revert to toddler-like tantrum throwing behaviour to try and get their way). Those individuals are very manipulative and have a really slimy smile, and will blame everyone else for their issues (instead of taking some self-responsibility).

And the overly insecure female types who try to chop you down to feel better about themselves or talk about you behind your back. And try to probe you for personal information, so they can find something that makes you inferior to them (according to their insecure mind). And then boast how fantastic they are to everyone who will listen.

For me the most intolerable are the motormouth puritans, who talk endlessly about trivia, and female motormouths with icepick voices are the most offensive. I have a cousin like this. Half an hour of her relentless verbal noise and I feel the will to live draining from me. Although her noisy voice is the worst thing, her personality gets to me too: should is her favourite word, and she takes great pride in her puritan personality which to her mind makes her infinitely superior to others. She is quite wealthy and takes especial pride in buying cheap clothes, cheap foods past their sell by date, she lives in a mouldy dark shack of a house full of clutter - throwing anything away would be wasteful! - and thinks that all this really makes her better than others. Her last visit, she bestowed on me two very bitter wilting lettuces, a half rotten pineapple, which I wonder if she got from a dumpster - as if she was doing me a great favour. I sometimes wonder if she talks so much because air is free! She scrounges fruit from neighbours' trees, "so it won't go to waste". Ugh.

Recently her sister died, who like me was not religious, and motormouth seized on this occasion to "save" her sister with endless religious diabtribes when sister was confined to her deathbed. Then motormouth proudly informed everyone at the funeral of her efforts to convert her unwilling sister. She is a miser who would like everyone else to lead joyless. miserable lives and holds herself out as a paragon of virtue. It's despicable.