Autistic kid wants friends but refuses to compromise...

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Me too. I was going to say it looks like my mother just jumped from the year 1992 and immediately posted here. I can relate all too well to the OP in that I understood but at the same time was incapable of understanding. I also had the issue that I hated being around 'geeks' and 'nerds' (my only friends) because I wasn't into D&D, Star Trek and only cared about hockey (and still do). Of course you can predict how the "cool" kids and their flock treated me. All I can say is that being an Aspie is rough especially from 11-15 and there is little you can do about it.

One thing I will warn is that my mother tried to teach me the "script" for social interaction and all it did was make me stand out even more. It was obvious I was trying to hard and had no idea what I was doing or what I was talking about and EVERYONE alienated me. Instead of having few friends I had no friends. That really helped my lot I would have been better off being the shy kid everyone ignored rather than the human punching bag I became.


Yep. Until I came to WP (at age 29) I would have never seen myself as a "geek" since I don't fit the stereotype. I don't wear glasses, barely made the honour roll and hate Star Trek (although my brother has all three to a T running one of the World's top Star Trek websites as a kid). If only I knew then what I knew now but I realize now I would never have been able to see (and accept) my geekiness and would have befriended geeks and gone for Engineering like I wanted to rather than Business in University. I kept getting punched in the face (literally) by cool kids but I just assumed they were having a bad day or were just not seeing the real me. Combine that with projecting my honesty and morality onto others and you can predict why school was a nightmare.

You know the scary thing about this is is that you can go to a sports bar, have a beer and talk about everything football. You can talk about scores, stats, player's names, play's and just about everything football and everyone you talk to will just eat it up and they don't have to be your friends or anyone you know for that matter, and yet going to computer club and to get something similar started with the topic of of C++ is next to imposable. GOD! I do feel like an alien from another world..

I also think it's a wonderful idea.