Aspie Parents and their children

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Actually it can take up to 500 years for a disposable diaper to still decompose. So that means the ones I wore and used are still in the landfill here in Oregon where I lived as a baby and toddler. They are probably buried underground.

500 Years. Wow.

There should be a diaper stove that parents can burn disposable diapers in that uses filters that smell like baby powder. That way, the waste will disappear in an environmentally friendly way with a pleasant smell throughout the home.

Usually the older people who have those kinds of problems dispose of those products in a responsible manner so I am not on you CR. But young parents? They dispose of Pampers anywhere! And there are so many of them! And you never know if you will step on them getting out of a car, find them in the bushes, clogging up the sewers, even left in Disney rides (that has happened). At least the dog doo doesn't take 500 years to go away. Then they whine they cannot afford all of those Huggies and now there is a campaign to get people with no kids to donate so that people with kids get free diapers. If people cannot afford diapers why are they having kids they obviously cannot afford?

I must be living the wrong world because I have never seen any used diapers tossed on grounds or anywhere. But one time at my old job I was called to remove a dirty diaper from a room service tray one of the guests left on it because someone from the restaurant didn't want to touch the tray until the diaper was removed. It was as of they knew about me but I think it was just a coincidence.

I must be an exceptional mother because I have never thrown a diaper anywhere except for in the trash. One time a mother left her child's used diaper lying on the floor in the living room at someones house and I thought it was disgusting. Those were the only places I have seen a used diaper where it did not belong. We did have a guest once who tried to flush a diaper down the toilet and it caused the toilet to be backed up and the room attendant quit the next day.


Why do people have kids they cannot afford? Because we have all these programs out there like food stamps and WIC but what mothers don't know is there isn't a program that covers diapers like there is with food and formula. Plus sometimes families fall on hard times like losing a job so they can no longer afford diapers and it's easy to say "potty train them" but if only the kid will train when you decide to lol. It took me over a year to get my son out of diapers and I had to be patient and do it at his own pace and I had to back off for a while and try again and help him figure it out. I used cloth so disposables were never a problem for me. Sometimes we bought them. My husband hated cloth and so did my parents.

Actually, you should not need food stamps and WIC, if you need those programs, you can NOT afford to have kids! in fact, those programs actually encourage overpopulation because some "single moms" will get more welfare and WIC when they have another kid. Why should taxpayers like me, who have an ASD and have a hard time with jobs that I could lose at any time, have to pay for this? Which brings up the 85% unemployment rate and how can anyone with an ASD afford kids without the full time full benefits steady careers that NT people seem to have no trouble getting or keeping. And they shouldn't have so many kids either. Why should people have kids they cannot afford and then taxpayers have to pay for them? I would like to have a BMW but I cannot afford one, should I get somehow taxpayers to pay for it like people do with kids?

As for the Pampers issue, before they came along little kids were potty trained much earlier. Now kids who are 4 years old are wearing Huggies and Pullups, which I am sure Kimberly-Clark likes, more money for them. But its much more waste than there used to be.

Our country wants people to reproduce. There is an argument about what these programs are intended for. I was informed by people I know, my mother and husband and ex boyfriend, they want people to have kids so they have these programs so everyone can have them. Online I was told these programs were intended for families in need for when they fell on hard times and need help until they are back on their feet again. I know back in the days, people would just hand their kids off to orphanages because they couldn't afford them and if the kids were old enough, they went to work to help their families out instead of going to school. But now you need to be at least 14 to have a job now.

There are people out there that due truly abuse it just by having more kids to get more money from welfare or Social Security and if they have enough kids, they could just live off the income and not have to work. But me to I cannot imagine having such a life style with little money so why would anyone pick it and I never heard of making more money by not working because from my experience I make more if I work so why would I not want to work just to have less income? Why would I want more kids just to add to the stress and ruin my body? Unless I have a good gene that keeps my body looking good after each kid, no loose skin or saggy or granny skin or loose belly, and not being fat and not have to work out to be skinny again.


I wonder how on earth kids trained early before two years of age back when my parents were little. Having my own, I have found it impossible to train a child if they do not want to train because they will fight it and getting frustrated with them and getting mat at them about it makes it even harder to train them. I used cloth with my son and he still got out of them at three years of age. Trying to get him to go poopy was the hardest and nothing worked and he always held it and then he finally started going after I had my daughter. He also stopped going backwards with potty training too like he would sometimes. I found taking away his underwear worked and it would make him move forward again, especially with our washer out of order because I told him if he keeps wetting his underwear, he won't have any left to wear and we can;t wash any clothes right now. I could have hand washed them but I didn't want to do that and I saw it worked because he was peeing again in the potty and that was what I wanted, just some manipulation there I did which isn't always a bad thing. I can understand now why some parents would beat their children during potty training and after and the time that one mother super glued her toddler's hand to the wall and beat her for wetting her pants. It is frustrating, it's hard, but you do not hurt your child for it. Also I do not understand the competition parents do with this, then they get frustrated when their child isn't training by a certain age when they want them to be. Why the rush you know? I have asked parents when do they plan on training their child and they always say "when they're ready" and if I ask when should a id be trained by and they say it depends on the child. Those are the parents that do not have an age set for them to be out of diapers by so they are not going to be trying to force their child and rushing it and then getting all frustrated with it because their kid isn't fitting into their mold by training when they want them to be. So how did parents get their kids out of them at a certain age?

And just so you know, we don't get foods tamps or WIC. We qualify for WIC but I choose to not use it even though I have been consulted about it at the clinic. Doctors and nurses and social workers will tell moms about it and giving them a WIC pamphlet so they can sign up for it. It's like they want moms to be on it. We have used it before but stopped when my son was a year and a half. I just stopped scheduling and going. Anyone can qualify for this program if they have enough kids, it depends on their income. That is what I have noticed with any program, including school reduced lunch. I am sure there are people that do keep on having kids just so they can qualify and my logic about it would be why? kids are expensive, you will have to buy more clothes, more food, more presents, pay more money when you go out and have fun like to the zoo or to the fair or a museum or when going to a movie or just out to eat and don't forget you will need a bigger car and need two cars to go anywhere if you have that many kids. That means more gas and spending more money on it too. So I would think popping out more kids to get on these programs and to get more money back in taxes is foolish. I also know the more kids you have, the less you go out and have fun that costs money and the less presents you buy for each child and clothes get handed down to their next sibling they outgrow and it's the same with toys too. That was the way it was in my parents family growing up and they weren't even poor.


With today's economy, NTs are struggling too with employment now due to no jobs and they can't just go work at a fast food because they over qualify. Right now my dad doesn't have any work right now for his business but he gets Social security because he is in his 60's. My brother was working for him and when my dad ran out of appraisals for him to do, he went and found another job. Also not all ASD people struggle with employment, there are some that are successful with their careers. Temple Grandin for example and John Robison and there is a member here that works for intel, Karla Fisher. She runs her ASD page on facebook.