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jerry00
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12 Sep 2014, 1:58 pm

Yes my self esteem has really taking a beating. Been looking for a partner or at least a decent friend for years.

Now I feel pretty much ugly, unlikeable, dont want to go out anymore. Meh I tried so hard and nobody wanted me so now I'm just going to isolate myself again.

I have a bald patch in the middle of my eyebrow that seems to have been getting bigger because I've been worrying about it, trying to find reasons why nobody seems to want me around, I start to wonder if that's one of them.



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12 Sep 2014, 4:21 pm

1. No. I don't.
I am confident about myself. I know I am not perfect but I am also aware of my strengths. I don't care what other people think - I am happy with myself, I don't have to fit their standards as long as I fit my own. I know I am smart, lucky and brave enough to deal with anything. Even if it looks bad at start (since I tend to exaggerate stuffs and I can even get emotional outbreaks) in the end I am always able to convince myself that everything is going to be fine. And I am right.
2. n/a
3. Not openly but I kind of show it very often. It pops up everytime I see something other people are unable to do - I rush into action then and just do it. Then I smile, proudly. :lol:
4. I don't say it openly because it is socially unacceptable to brag about your confidence. People tend to get mean to you then for some reason, trying to get you down. At least in Poland.



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16 Sep 2014, 7:32 pm

Ganondox wrote:
So I randomly came across an excerpt from "Aspergers in Love: Couple Relationships and Family Affairs" by Maxine C. Aston, and for the most part I found it to be one of the most accurate descriptions of aspergers I've ever seen, mainly because she actually asks people with aspergers about stuff instead of just making presumptions. However, some of her explanations for why aspies do certain things seem to be biased by classical ideas of autism, like saying aspies merely don't have imagination, resulting in lack of theory of mind, which prevents them from being able to do certain things, when I can attest the reality, at least for me, is much more complicated. Anyway, reflecting on my own behavior and those she described of people lacking self-esteem and why they do as such lead me to a little epiphany. I'm not going to say what it is yet, because I don't want it to influence people's responses to questions I'm going to ask in order to possibly confirm it.


First? Do you lack self-esteem?

Second, if so, why do you lack self-esteem?

Third, have you do told anyone about how you feel about yourself?

Finally, if not, why haven't you told anyone?


Ganondox, are you going to enlighten us about your epiphany?


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12 Oct 2014, 9:58 pm

1) Yes, I lack self-esteem.

2) I think I lack self-esteem because of a bad childhood and upbringing.

3) I've told my parents about how I feel about myself, but I don't believe they've really helped me with my problem.



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12 Oct 2014, 11:31 pm

1. I initially thought I had low self-esteem, doubted myself and took several tests, took forever to realize and accept my initial thoughts were true, and beat myself up for not seeing that as another sign of self esteem despite having seen it as a question on several of the tests

2. Likely social isolation and bullying the majority of my life, and lack of success career or romance wise despite being told I have so much potential for both

3. No, but now I realise maybe I should and have began thinking about how and to who

4. N/A