Adamantium wrote:
vickygleitz wrote:
a doctor had convinced her that ECT would help with OCD
Thanks for this update, Vicky. I guess the question is why did this doctor think it would help and did he give her a realistic warning of risks?
First, I think it is tragic. I felt sick to my stomach when I read what she typed.
But then I started to wonder how involved she was in the choice.
And then, if she was involved in the choice, or even the sole author of it, whether or not she was given a list of the risks.
Then I thought of my friend's teenaged son. He would do ANYTHING right now to get rid of his OCD symptoms. And if he was told there was a 75% chance that something bad might happen, and a 25% chance that it might cure his symptoms, I think he would take the risk. He honestly does not believe that he will be able to live this way for the rest of his life, and nothing else has helped. The overwhelming and utter despair he feels due to the nature of his OCD is...unbearably intense. That is the only way I can describe it.
FWIW, I have seen ECT work with some patients. It is not the same as the ECT of the old days. But it doesn't work with everyone, and some people have serious negative effects. But I don't think it is fair for any of us to state what we would or wouldn't do, or what someone else should or shouldn't have done, if we have not been wearing the same shoes.
Imagine if Carly did make an informed decision to have ECT, even understanding the risks. When she regains her skills, what might she be reading on the internet? People's condemnation of her family? Statements that it was a bad decision? None of us knows why she had ECT. Perhaps she felt the risks were worth the potential benefits. Perhaps she was suffering in ways that she did not share in her public life. Robin Williams killed himself, but yet most people would describe him as funny and happy from what you could glean from his public persona.
I think we should all be sending Carly all of the strength we can spare and reserving judgment. None of us knows what happened. And some of the speculation could be pretty hard to digest if she ever chose to read it.
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Mom to 2 exceptional atypical kids
Long BAP lineage