Being 'Normal"

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SINK normal!

You will adjust to your enviornment, maybe not completely successfully, but it is easier being an adult. You'll learn a set of behaviors that will allow you to "pass" in public and then you can be yourself in private. At least in the workplace, behavior is more circumscribed. You don't have to eat lunch with people nor socialize with them. If you're motivated, you can take classes at the university in psychology and sociology which will provide some elightenment about *why* people behave as they do which will allow you to better predict how they will treat you and what behavior you should use to get a desired result. Of course that may all go out the window when you're stressed out. That's when something like yoga comes in handy to stop the stress.

When someone says something really bizarre to you that you don't want to talk about, it is ok to say, "Oh, really." Then you can just change the topic. When the other person loses interest in your topic, they will go away.

If you are interested in making friends, the easiest way is to do volunteer work. I used to volunteer to work with handicapped people, especially mentally ret*d people, and I met my husband through a friend I made at the agency. People who do that kind of thing are generally kind-hearted. Those are the kind of people you want as friends.

It gets better and you will become wise.

I don't want to be normal as much as I want to feel like I belong somewhere or be completely accepted by a group of friends. Which seems to be the ultimate goal of someone who says they want to be "normal".

Oh god god what is normal anyway? No such thing. No one is perfect, everyone has their own uniqueness, everyone has their own problems, everyone has their own difficulties. You are normal, but just on the autism spectrum. NTs are normal even though some have disabilities or health problems. Lot of people them it and that doesn't make them not normal. I think there are very few people in the world who have nothing wrong with them. They don't need pills, they don't have any disabilities, they have no medical conditions, no problems with eye sight so they don't need glasses, etc. If you're going look at the word 'normal' that way, then lot of people aren't NORMAL. Be proud.


A person on the autism spectrum who sees herself as normal.

No, I do not wish to change, what I do wish is that the rest of the general population was more understanding.

Most of my problems with society stem from being misunderstood by them, not because of who I am... because of who they are.

I feel much better now about my little mistakes.

*giggles* and I think a certain someone would be very upset if I changed anyways......LOL!! !

Given the choice, I wouldn't change myself in order to better fit into the mould of a culture that doesn't care if I live or die anyway. That said, I would like to be able to make friends better (I only have three proper friends that I've made myself, everyone else I might socialise with is a friend of those friends). I would like to be able to talk on the phone better and participate in group conversations rather than sit on the sidelines as a mute spectator. I would like to be able to respond emotionally to my girlfriend, picking up the subtle cues that she's upset without her having to tell me explicitly. There are things I enjoy about aspie-ness too though, I actually like my thought process and staying up late reading books rather than watching football, pondering the universe, talking to cats, playing chess in my head rather worrying about what look is in next season etc. I guess what I'm saying is that i can't change the way I am and am doing my best to take the good with the bad.