How do I get out of this social event without being rude?

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Mission accomplished then, by the look of it

I've often thought that we may be worrying too much about this fitting in thing. There always seems to be this received wisdom of "oh, you've got to play the game." Some truth in it, but the hive mind hasn't taken over the whole planet yet. I bet quite a large proportion of people at social gatherings are fondly wishing they were elsewhere. Some of them have even told me as much, and they can't all have been Aspies.

That's what's called a result! I think you underestimate your social skills.

I''m so glad that went well, rebbieh!

I'm glad that it didn't turn out to be a whole big thing, like you were fearing and frankly I was fearing too. I get this way too, anticipating having to say something like this as being bigger and worse than it turns out to be.

I relate to what Tough Diamond says about maybe sometimes we tend to anticipate things like this are going to be much more complicated, difficult and awkward to get through than it turns out to be in the end. I do this too about most things.

But it's natural to worry (at least, it is for me) and it's good to have a place like this to hash out possible ways of handling all eventualities.

I didn't actually talk to her, I wrote to her on Facebook, so she could've been really disappointed/angry while writing her reply and I still wouldn't know. But it's probably fine. Anyway, thank you for helping me out!