Am I the only person who truly doesn't need friends...

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Irrefutably there is a lot more to life than one's intellectual abilities, but to exist in this game we call "life" without ostensibly any authentic emotions has, on occasion, led me to question my own existence. And yes, I acknowledge that it is an utterly absurd perspective to have on life.

This post pretty much expresses how I feel about it.

While I seem to have become immune to loneliness, I do feel very happy when I meet genuinely good people who are happy to spend time with me. Most people are mean-natured and I'd rather not have anything to do with them.

Very kind of you to say so The outpourings of my brain aren't everybody's cup of tea, so it's nice to know when somebody relates to them.

Ah thank you

I hope my advice is everybody's cup of coffee!

I think you give good advice

I concur! And, you offer tons of positive encouragement to others, and there's nothing better than that, @Kraftie!

I relate to them, most definitely!

Thanks so much!

You're much better than coffee. You cheer me up more, and you don't stain my teeth or give me high blood pressure.

I will respond to the thread-title in particular...

I dislike socialising (particularly in-person). I do not own a telephone. Even when I did own one, when I needed to contact someone or some business about something, I would go to that location in-person instead (but not to socialise). I prefer & value the time I can get to myself. I do not like communicating via telephone (like I said, I do not own one, and even when I did, like I said earlier...) and prefer not to be bothered as I'm usually keeping myself busy 24/7.

Also, the reason why most of us are here on these forums, I think has something to do with something called: Asperger's

...thus... I would think that a lot of us may not necessarily be alone in who we are even if it may seem that way.

I will also mention that I absolutely dislike associating with people who are full of negative-emotions. Already had to deal with growing up with aggressively abusive-parents that acted like alcoholics (one having been a former alcoholic himself), and it's something that I will not tolerate from others (and I will and I have dropped such people from my life like hot-potatoes). I also find that such people tend to be very multi-faced anyway, like a Jekyll & Hyde syndrome, and associating with such dishonest people has only ever brought problems into my life, unnecessarily.

The typical NT will not remain my friend if he cannot contain his own out-bursts of anger over stupid reasons, especially when those out-bursts are directed towards me when I had done nothing to start a conflict, and my experiences with the typical NTs have shown me that they are always randomly trying to create problems where none exist & always seem to intentionally start & perpetuate arguments (even when it has already been proven that they are in the wrong and it's even worse when they continue to argue whilst remaining willfully ignorant).

People who do not know how to study on their own, who do not know how to research on their own, who do not know how to fact-check on their own, who do not know how to formulate a convincing argument, and who have no f*****g clue how to control their own damn emotions from turning into an irrational Jekyll & Hyde syndrome nut-case, they simply aren't worth my time, and I do not care for such people to be a part of my life anyway (the addiction that they have to drama-causing behaviours is just utterly stupid as far as I'm concerned).

Is your former partner an Aspie or a NT?

I suspect it's because of Asperger's syndrom lolz. This independence is one of your great strengths and other people can be jealous of it. Every strength has a downside however...a pitfall. The pitfall is isolating yourself and loneliness slowly creeping in, very slowly. Another possibility is boredom. Other people can bring color in your life.

I've been like this and still am in many ways, a total loner not needing others much, but with a minority complex however and felt that after long periods I would feel the need to have a friend. It was just very rare that I would find one. I would have liked to have many cool friends but there weren't many candidates. Most people were just so shallow and boring. This is not a helpful belief to have so I keep a more open mind about people and now it's much more open than the average person's. But still, connections that feel real are rare.

The minority complex I would get comparing myself with others, who were much more succesful in life, while mine was a struggle. I am more sensitive towards those other people than I'd like to admit. I don't want to be seen as lesser. I want respect. But have had this "stay at a distance" force field around me somehow, I just didn't know how to connect to people it's like Seymour says in Ghost World "I can't relate to 99% of humanity" and I still have difficulty though there have been clear small steps to improvements and some friends in my small circle. On my own terms still, I don't do birthdays and all that BS.

This is the social aspect but there's another important part of life: work. I strive to be 100% independent, no job and have my own small company. I don't hate people they just can get in my way

So yes I can dig on a certain level! People can be annoying, stupid, illogical and full of ****. But hey so can I, sometimes...it's just that I seem to be more logical and respectful.