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29 Dec 2015, 6:35 pm

In order for them to take action, the bullying would have to be quite definite and obvious.

If it's illegal to record, I wouldn't record.

I wish your parents could advocate for you.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:38 pm

Starfoxx wrote:
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If you have a smartphone, it can probably record audio. Nice and stealthy. If you have someone you trust, tell them what you plan, and see if they can be close at hand when you do it.


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Maybe when you must see her again. Be very unresponsive. Do not speak. Do not look at her or answer any questions. Refuse to follow instructions.


Why?


To incite her bullying. Get a nice helping of it on file.


Would that be provoking her?


Not to any thinking person. Maybe not overtly refuse to comply, but see if you can do something that's set her off before.


I wasn't saying to do that to provoke her, but to save your sanity lol. She will naturally get into trouble over time if she gets angry and starts shouting but if you mentally check out you don't care anymore and don't feel anything.


Yeah but she has already been there for a few years. I think they want to keep her because there are few OTs.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:40 pm

You don't have to follow my advice though. Lots of people don't like my advice even though it can work:? .



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29 Dec 2015, 6:41 pm

Have you ever told her that you don't find what she says acceptable? Sometimes, that might light a fire under a person's butt.

When she says something like "you'll never make it in this world," just tell her that you will. I will make it in this world, despite what you say!



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29 Dec 2015, 6:44 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Have you ever told her that you don't find what she says acceptable? Sometimes, that might light a fire under a person's butt.

When she says something like "you'll never make it in this world," just tell her that you will. I will make it in this world, despite what you say!

I think that isn't a good idea because it shows the therapist that she is getting to her. Don't ever show that.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:45 pm

All I can find is that secret recordings with an employer might be a grey area, but nothing similar to this situation. If you decide against recording, perhaps "accidentally" phoning your father, keep the phone in your pocket and have him "accidentally" overhear her behaviour. Then at least there'll be a witness. "Accidentally".


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29 Dec 2015, 6:46 pm

It seems clear she has crossed her boundries of ethics! If What you say is correct, she is violating her own oath and putting her client/s in harm or jepordy! Please ring number below and have a word with them about your situation, they are there for this type of thing which unfortunately isn't uncommon! if you can't or are unable to i am more than happy to give a call and find out what can be done and what your options are... No person, human being or soul should be treated in such a way by a paid professioinal that is employed in effect to be helping you, not destroying you! She is very aware of long term damage from making such remarks to yourself and has cleary shown she has crossed the line! This infuriates me to see this going on in this country! :evil: Am not a happy chappy right now! Will be happy to help out in any way i can!

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29 Dec 2015, 6:48 pm

She has to stop the bullying, somehow.

This is a professional who is bullying her, not some kid.

I wish her parents could advocate for her.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:49 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
In order for them to take action, the bullying would have to be quite definite and obvious.

If it's illegal to record, I wouldn't record.

I wish your parents could advocate for you.


Yeah the thing is a lot of her bullying is subtle. That's why I think she has gotten away with it for so long. That's why I'm worried my recording won't work.

My parents know about it. But I told them not to worry. ( I know stupid.) But I think my OT will just deny it and make it look like I was in the wrong. I was worried they would make it worse. But maybe I should let them talk to her if she bullies me again.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:50 pm

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You should look up New Zealand laws pertaining to recording.

And be VERY careful when you carry the device. Sometimes, teachers look for these devices.


Someone said that it is illegal to do it in New Zealand.

I'm not from New Zealand. I said in my country it's illegal and you should do your research first to see if it's illegal in New Zealand as well.

I wonder if it would be better to just avoid having to deal with her by saying to the headmaster that you're dissasisfied with her and want to discontinue the service discreetly.
Cause you don't necissarily need to screw her over since the main goal is to just get away from her.
Not sure if and how to do this properly though, just a thought.

Honestly the idea of her "just stopping" must be the most unlikely thing I've ever heard.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:51 pm

Yep...I think that would be a good idea.

But you also have to show this therapist, somehow, that you're not stupid, and that you're aware of what she is doing. I really believe that. She might think your cognitive level is not as high as it actually is.

I also believe, contrary to what some others are saying, that you have to have it in your mind that the bullying MUST STOP. Even if it's not successful, I believe you have to have that mindset.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:53 pm

^ She (Aspergirl16) has to prove nothing, just get the f**k outta there.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:55 pm

Hopefully, if she "gets out of there," she will get the Occupational Therapy that she needs.



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29 Dec 2015, 6:56 pm

Uncle wrote:
It seems clear she has crossed her boundries of ethics! If What you say is correct, she is violating her own oath and putting her client/s in harm or jepordy! Please ring number below and have a word with them about your situation, they are there for this type of thing which unfortunately isn't uncommon! if you can't or are unable to i am more than happy to give a call and find out what can be done and what your options are... No person, human being or soul should be treated in such a way by a paid professioinal that is employed in effect to be helping you, not destroying you! She is very aware of long term damage from making such remarks to yourself and has cleary shown she has crossed the line! This infuriates me to see this going on in this country! :evil: Am not a happy chappy right now! Will be happy to help out in any way i can!

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Thanks unfortunately I think teacher to student bullying is more common than we think in all countries. I will call them if I have her next year and contunies bullying me thank you!



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29 Dec 2015, 6:57 pm

I tip my imaginary hat to you, Uncle.


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29 Dec 2015, 6:59 pm

Earthling wrote:
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kraftiekortie wrote:
You should look up New Zealand laws pertaining to recording.

And be VERY careful when you carry the device. Sometimes, teachers look for these devices.


Someone said that it is illegal to do it in New Zealand.

I'm not from New Zealand. I said in my country it's illegal and you should do your research first to see if it's illegal in New Zealand as well.

I wonder if it would be better to just avoid having to deal with her by saying to the headmaster that you're dissasisfied with her and want to discontinue the service discreetly.
Cause you don't necissarily need to screw her over since the main goal is to just get away from her.
Not sure if and how to do this properly though, just a thought.


Honestly the idea of her "just stopping" must be the most unlikely thing I've ever heard.


Yeah I could ask my headmaster or get my parents to ask if I could see a new occupational therapist.