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16 Apr 2007, 9:52 pm

Lobber wrote:
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Say to her, "leave your handprint so that when i get a new girlfriend i will have two to show."
You can say it in a joking manner, but you need to show her that you are the boss.
She is testing you, if you show weakness by being a wuss, then she will leave.
Or you can pre-empt by just telling her you have had enough of her drama and whining; this way ( as in the Seinfeld episode) you have the hand in this relationship.

Anyone else catch that pun?

Although, I have to agree. Women DO test men for that wussy factor. Show weakness now, and you will lose your attractiveness to her, by bending to her instead of having a spine and being a MAN!

Don't be a jerk, there's a fine line to walk, and you must tread carefully. I'd still go the humor route though. Nothing beats the combination of manliness with humor. NOTHING. And love, be sure to do it in a loving way.




Yjr comment about showing her that..."you are the BOSS"....and mocking her hurt feelings with what you call humor...is not manly.....it is being a jerk.Men who talk about being "manly" tend to be jerks.You can continue to delude yourself with this psychobabble but I am telling you as a fellow aspie who would like to see aspie men find healthy relationships with women that you are wrong in your analysis of "what wemon want".No,I dont want a guy who makes me support him,would stand around while someone was beating me up and do nothing,begins crying every time I say something he doesnt like....but then again,I wouldnt really want a female to do those things either....nothing "unmanly" about it,just annoying.


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17 Apr 2007, 4:06 am

krex wrote:
Kosmonaut wrote:
Say to her, "leave your handprint so that when i get a new girlfriend i will have two to show."
You can say it in a joking manner, but you need to show her that you are the boss.
She is testing you, if you show weakness by being a wuss, then she will leave.
Or you can pre-empt by just telling her you have had enough of her drama and whining; this way ( as in the Seinfeld episode) you have the hand in this relationship.


Wow,that seems like the great advice of someone who spends a lot of Saturday nights, alone in their parents basement, getting to "know themselves" better,while googleing for 8 year old anime girls in short skirted school uniforms.....(and following that advice will put you in a similarly glamorous future.)

How someone who likes Joydivision can actually give such advice.....priceless.


No need to get personal.
I am too old to get bothered by such comments, but some are vulnerable around here.
If you don't care for my advice, then fine but your assessment of my personal situation is not only incorrect but completely irrelevant.
edit: just to be clear, thats not to say my personal situation is irrelevant, just your opinion of it.



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17 Apr 2007, 5:04 am

krex wrote:
Excuse me gents....insecure female here(granted,an aspie one,so mabe my thinking is different then his girlfiriend)why do so many aspie guys seem to think women will like them more if they act more like the jerks they see getting girls


Krex, in a way you've answered your own question. Us insecure male aspies see the jerks getting girlfriends, and so our observations tell us that, rightly or wrongly, "girls like jerks". Don't forget, we've often no social skills and have to try to develop them by watching other people.

I've had a number of girl friends as I grew up, but only ever one girlfriend. My girl friends saw me as "cute" (euphemism for "You're OK as a pal, but you're definitely not dating material"). I was seen as "safe" (if just a bit weird), polite, treated them with respect, but meanwhile they'd be off dating the jerks. Therefore being a jerk appears to be the way you behave to get a girlfriend.


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17 Apr 2007, 6:07 am

Lobber wrote:
Kosmonaut wrote:
Say to her, "leave your handprint so that when i get a new girlfriend i will have two to show."
You can say it in a joking manner, but you need to show her that you are the boss.
She is testing you, if you show weakness by being a wuss, then she will leave.
Or you can pre-empt by just telling her you have had enough of her drama and whining; this way ( as in the Seinfeld episode) you have the hand in this relationship.

Anyone else catch that pun?



It's a very good metaphor and I think was intended by the original poster.
I mean i'm not the most 'cleanest' person there is, but am hygenic and don't live in a pigsty.
If i had handprints on my headboard, i'd probably clean them up; more of a personal issue, nothing to do with relationships.

The pun is used in a Seinfeld episode.
'Hand' is used in the sense of card games too; "Wow, i have a great hand" or "i have no hand" :(
But i digress.