Sympathy for objects but not humans

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i used to kick my computer when it didnt do what it promised, swearing at it was not enough. mice, keyboards, floppys all got thrown around the room. i did it at work once but had a panick attack about all my work going up in smoke (nobody saw me). eventually computers and devices will stop working if abused but swearing is ok . i dont do it as often now though, getting a new mouse every week is not good. i would feel guily about kicking the computer though.

I kicked my old computer a lot. It break eventually. I also once punched a laptop which cracked the screen. I throw things a lot too. I never get violent with people though. Only when I'm on my own.

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I don't think I ever saw a question like that until about fourth grade, but I do remember that in either kindergarten or first grade I was introduced to the concept of thinking in someone else's place, thus I was easily able to tackle critical thinking problems like that when I was finally presented with them. As it turns out (and I consider this rather unfortunate now) my IQ as a child was literally off the chart by the S/B standard that they typically used in the 80s -- which is why no doctor would even entertain my mom's suggestions that I could be autistic. But oddly enough, I could do stuff like that on paper, but seemed to fail miserably in real life situations. For example on paper I would answer the Sally/Anne question correctly because I knew that was the answer they were looking for (hence my ability to ace an IQ test). However, if I saw the same scene acted out, I would subconsciously predict that Sally would look in her own box, but yet be uncontrollably frustrated to see her not go to Anne's box, since I knew that was where the marble was. Thus it would appear from that assessment that I would have gotten the question wrong. I find this sort of thing happens to me in real situations. A lot of times I am perceived by others to not grasp a situation, because the inner battle between what I know and what I think others know takes some time to sort out. Then I get very frustrated because people (my mom is the worst about this) are always explaining things out in basic format, and thus insulting my intelligence inadvertently. It's almost a paradox, and one not easily solved.

But perhaps that same subconscious battle that I mentioned there is the same one that causes the feelings toward objects and people alike. It's like you always have to use your conscious reasoning ability to correct the impulses of your subconscious mind -- or vice versa.

Wow, no wonder NTs don't understand me....

I still feel more sympathy for London's Routemasters, than I feel for people and it's almost been a year and a half.

I do have that.
There is even a group of people who feel sexual love for objects,
objektoplilia
objectophilia. That's falling in love with things, rather than people, and apparently 'things' includes pets.

Volkmar Sigusch, a sex psychologist and researcher, sees this objectophilia as part of a trend he calls neo-sexuality which also takes in the newly 'asexual'. The story from Deutsche Welle describes people falling in love with their pets, and one woman who was 'enraptured' with a ferry.

I don't think it's right to class objects and non-human animals in the same category.
Didn't someone in Germany try to marry her dog?

well, there is asexuality, and a whole other stuff, I could not find info in english, guess its a german thing

I still talk to things...mostly out of frustration now though...

the truck... "you aren't going to break down on me today are you?"..."don't overheat right now."..."please start, please start, please start."

the mower..."the scrap yard is just up the road...don't make me pick up that phone."..."I have tools...don't make me use them."

When I was little I remember crying for days when my dad traded in our old car.

This can come in handy if you are the parent. I told my son not to eat in on his new carpet because he could hurt the carpet's fibers, which are like it's soul. I hope this wasn't mean.

Brilliance.

I call my GPS all sorts of awful names when I'm lost. I also tell it "I hate your stupid electronics guts! I will DESTROY you!"

Awe be kind to the technologies, we love you.

Don't think Ive ever really cared about an object.. not even a sentimental attachment.

But then again I feel the same way about people.

People used to tell me that I was a phycopath or somethign because I could fell emphaty for animals and objects but not for people.

I can understand that...paradox, or whatever it would be called. To me, I think the latter stuff is really just social stuff that maybe we can't always relate to, while the former shows TRUE sympathy and compassion.

I think that relates to the AS trait of caring about social justice issues, while simultaneously not necessarily relating to individual stuff...I'm not saying that right and probably don't make sense.



I do wonder about that. I'm a weird combination of sometimes being rigid and "cold" about following whatever I imagine is "correct", but also I'm...not at all tough as nails inside, to put it mildly. Honestly I sometimes think I'm dog-like...and maybe that's why dog's always seem to trust me...?



That's terrible! I think an actual psychopath is someone who wants to hurt someone.



I hardly ever throw things (and never to hurt people), but sometimes I do when I'm SUPER SUPER SUPER freaked out. It's always after I've been pacing, almost hyperventalating, etc., and usually culminates with my like throwing my phone or something. Honestly it helps some. I obviously still know what I'm doing somewhat, because I never do it with something I care about or don't want to lose, and I do it so nothing else is hurt. It's like I need the release. Thankfully under normal circumstances I never do that (but did throw my phone during being totally freaked out about the changes at work last week, and have in regards to some other super-stressful stuff.)