Why Are Aspies Suspicious Everyone Is Lying About Autism?

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MadFialka, well said, and I relate very much to your experiences also. So similar to my reactions and processes with this whole thing, that I got goosebumps.

Aspergers/Autism has been the seen as a "disease of the month" for probably two decades now. I mostly agree with above reasoning. The truthful cliche "If you tell a lie often enough people will believe it" applies here. People in thier 20's who have been told they are part of a fad or a scam their whole life are going naturally start looking for the supposed fakers and wanabees who have invalidated thier struggles instead of putting the blame where it belongs, those spreading these myths. Once you start looking you can start seeing "them" everywhere.

The undiagnosed missing older generations have been told similar things there whole life they are weak, lazy excuse making losers. The only logical explanation at the time was charactor flaws. Then an explanation that makes sense arrives. Acceptence, relief, increased self esteem follows. Some overcompensation in the form of supremisicm and retro diagnoses occurs. And here comes threads that mimic what they have been told thier whole by seeming ungreatful mellenials who are seemingly judging them based on the extremists. That obvoiusly does not go over well. Us older people start to see every post with this theme as yet just another accusation against us same old, same old. Sometimes these threads are really just about a few idiots on tumbler.

I don't see why someone would diagnose themselves with a disorder just because the quiz says they are if they are not having any problems in life or don't think they have anything wrong with them nor if have they never felt different from others and never had to figure out how to act an to study behaviors to figure out how to act and what not to say and keep making mental lists of what not to say to people, etc. I have scored high on a personality disorder test and it said I was moderate or high with personality disorders but I didn't take it seriously. That was years ago.

AdamLain -- did you post the wrong quote when you posted mine and said you don't see my point? The reason I ask is that I'm one of the ones who are in complete agreement with you on this thread. It doesn't "matter so much to me" at all -- that was someone else on the thread who finds it matters to him if someone only read a Wiki page, not me.

I too ask why so many people on the spectrum think others are lying. I then gave the story of my personal journey with being an older person who found out late and got diagnosed later in life. I told my story to illustrate that I'm quite the opposite of one of the trend-seekers -- which is what the suspicious aspies accuse "new aspies" of being.

If you need further clarification please let me know. I'm with you on your original question, not against you.

I will own up to this suspition, because i see that people "symptoms" arent very symptom like. And people pick and choose what symptoms do mean autism and which ones dont. Also as soon as your aware of the autism symptoms you will start acting more autistic unintentionally.

You see, I never get to see anything like that because WP is the only place I go that has any connection to autism issues. I don't look at blogs or belong to Facebook groups or anything like that. So I guess I don't get to witness hordes of fakers claiming this or that.

In my real life I don't disclose or discuss autism with anyone. Nobody knows I have a diagnosis. I've had to fill some people in on difficulties but I've addressed only the specific "thing" -- I've said I have anxiety or sensory processing problems or even just "I don't like crowds" " I don't like noise" ----- without actually going all the way and saying I have an ASD. If I have to explain anything I've just said the above. I don't announce it to people.

The only people who know I have it are here on WP, and even here I don't feel comfortable, precisely because of the cynical suspicion so often expressed here. There's something wrong with that. This is one place that's kinda-sorta supposed to be a source of support, not suspicion.

I have not looked at autism Facebook pages or tumblr but I do read autism bloggers and vloggers and I can tell you what goes on here is relatively tame compared to thier comments sections. They are constantly accused of faking it for attention,"diagnosed" with narcissism, since for whatever reason most of these bloggers are women using thier hot body to gain sympathy. This is especially bad because in some cases they have been accused by one or more proffessionals of the same things.

I cant believe how oblivious you guys seem. A lot of people who fake it get special treatment because aspies themselves.are unsympathetic while fakers arent. Just go on Tumblr or Facebook. You will find tons of toxic self dx folk who think they represent the spectrum.

If those online platforms are that bad either leave those platforms or confront the fakers over there. For awhile people in nearly every comments sections were telling us how we should define ourselves. When that happened they were immediatly confronted by multiple people. This problem has been greatly reduced. These fakers need to have holes punched in thier overinflated egos.

Since the problem seems rampant in those two platforms the thing to do is start a thread about self dx fakery in those platforms and not to make it into a widespread general accusation. When people have been accused of attention seeking or fakery thier whole lives they are often they think these type threads are about them personally and people like them generally. This vicous cylcle has been repeated here nearly weekly and has done nothing to solve the autistic wanabee issue as far as I can tell. We have older members who most likly do not use tumblr so we will be oblivoius to whatever goes on there.