No official diagnosis, so what do I call myself?

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I wasn't even referring to you specifically when I spoke of knowing when someone is being an a-hole to me -- I was talking about any time that has happened, which you may have seen, and which caused you to conclude that I'm merely hypersensitive, like that means I just have to be mistaken and wrong every time.

I was referring to anyone who has acted like that toward me, and in fact I first and foremost had in mind the very person who tried to run me off here.

Who -- interesting to note -- other members here have also felt to be an a-hole.

But no, they all must be "hypersensitive" too.

Seriously, anyone who has a strong emotional reaction evoked by my behavior - unless it was intended to be hostile, which it never is here - is someone I conclude I should keep my distance from. This is true in real life, too.

So BirdInFlight, I acknowledge that you have every right to be here and have your own opinions. We probably aren't future best friends.

Uh, have I argued about whether or not you should "keep your distance"? I didn't even address that in my response to your response.

I'm saying it wasn't YOU I was calling an a-hole but the general behavior when I see it as aimed at me. And I said I had in mind THAT OTHER person.

I never even said YOU have been "hostile" to me -- I said I've argued with you. I've had a difference of opinion with you, I never even said you had ever intended to be hostile.


Having said that, even you yourself have claimed to enjoy something about using your "verbal revenge" on someone. You can't play innocent pretending that if you do come into opposition with someone, you're not capable of a-hole nastiness. Oh you do it elegantly but it's still vicious.

And if you're vicious to someone -- even with wit, intelligence, careful wording and great intellect -- you can't be surprised that a person already bruised fights back with "strong emotional reaction."

But nooooo, you're cool and I drool. I get it.

Frankly, I find you overly cold, without compassion, and judgemental.

I call myself 'self diagnosed'. All it means is that I am convinced. As it has not also been determined by a professional it is simply a supposition.

In my situation that is sufficient, and I do not intend to get a diagnosis. The only one that trully needs to know is my wife. A special education teacher, she fully concurs with it and it goes much smoother now in our relationship since we figured it out and handle things with HFA in mind always. I think that alone is a type of verification. If you feel better taking an allergy medicine it probably means you have allergies.

I was diagnosed by a professional, but I don't see it necessary to say that specifically. When I want to tell someone, I just say I have Asperger's Syndrome, and explain a bit if necessary.