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DancingCorpse
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12 Feb 2017, 1:52 am

I have been driven bananas by pretty much every single building I have resided in, I just wear headphones 95% of the time these days to drown selfish humans with much less sensitive ears or much higher tolerance for invasive noise banshee bats else I would be in meltdown city like I used to be before I took it upon my corroded sanity to don a supremely super shield of virtuous white noise as if it were an elegantly evolved pair of earmuffs!



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13 Feb 2017, 11:40 pm

Claradoon wrote:
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When I hear the noise, it hurt my ears sooo much, I try to keep calm, after a while & I can't take it anymore, I will scream. Hopefully I will move sometime this year, I just need to get my energy to clean & pack, so I can do less later.

Thank heaven you're moving. You might want to look for elderly neighbours who wear slippers.

I once had a very young neighbour who roller-skated in her basement apartment. She thought nobody could hear her but it rattled the walls all the way up.

May I make a suggestion - skip cleaning. You're already exhausted. Just pack. You'll recover in your new place and unpack at leisure. Label boxes!

If a/c helps, then maybe you could leave white noise on all the time - worth a try?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_2FDRtFOAw


How can I not clean? I don't know when I'm moving. I got a credit card late last year, I have to wait for my credit to get high. My sister got me my apartment, I didn't want to live here, I told her no to the apartment, she didn't listen & got mad at me, she talked me into the apartment. I wasn't in my right mind, we loss our mom back then, my mind just shut off, it's a long story. She sorta made an enemy out of me.



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14 Feb 2017, 2:49 am

Oh! That's a family mess that sounds just like me and my sister. She does things on her own say-so. She thinks she's helping. Then I'm the ingrate, even though I never asked for any such thing.

Back when we and Mom (with Alzheimer's) were living together, I said I wanted a dog. She put down $200 on a puppy for me and wanted to be reimbursed. She was absolutely convinced that I had asked her to get a dog.

Then I read Women Venus/Men Mars. It said that if the wife says, "Wouldn't it be nice to have a swimming pool," the husband thinks she is nagging him to get one. Since the house belonged to my sister, she was the head of the household, and in charge of everything? Anyway, I was careful what I said after that. But it did fit - she had taken the role of "husband." I talked to her about it and she was very surprised when I said that "I'd love to have a <whatever>" that statement has absolutely nothing to do with her.

Well, this is long, but you and your sister lost your mother and your sister took over - does any of this sound familiar?



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15 Feb 2017, 10:24 pm

My sister can act like my mother or my guardian, I don't need one! I'm 46, not a little girl. I love that she is helping me, she can help me the wrong way, she never asked me what I need help with, she thinks she have to be right. We were never close, she never acted like a sister when she moved out of our childhood house, she was 18 & I was 14. For 30 years, she wasn't around too much, when me & my mom visited her at her house, it was always awkward for me, I didn't know how to talk to her & what to say. She been in my life for almost 4 years & she act like we didn't lose time as sisters & getting to know me.