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Do not know cooking, home improvement, car repair

Got driver's license

Bad at driving

Social interaction no good

Got a bachelor's degree and an associate degree in different subjects

Do not know computer repair

File taxes ok

Got a couple minimum wage jobs. And got fired


No job skills

Take the bus ok

How do you do that?
Considering the need for independence and being able to take care of yourself - those are skills to acquire along other skills such as work

Hmmmm. Well...All I can really say is that the "one thing right" philosophy was my only hope, and I am open to alternatives. But here is how it worked for me.

Everyone who isn't living alone in the wilds is specialized to some degree. People have certain jobs entailing certain task, people start business selling certain products but not others etc. It's especially important for me to specialize, because, I am terrible at mutli-tasking, it takes me a looooooong time to learn a new skill, I have a very narrow focus and there are some things my disability just won't let me learn certain at all. Therefore I better get really good at day trading, so I have the money to hire others to do all the other things for me.

Unfortunately, I cant say specifically what you should specialize in, but the first step is to figure out what other people are doing, then to try and fit yourself in like a puzzle piece. Also the more dependent you are the better you need to be at that one task, whatever it may be, to hire others to take care of you. Not very hopeful is it? But that's how it is.

That's all I got.

Well, how would you get others to take care of you?
Regarding basic needs, home duties (cleaning, bills, etc)?
And who would you get to take care of you?

If I didn't have friends and family as a staring point I would just be doomed. I can't do everything alone. With that starting point in mind however, I would do my best to specialize in certain duties within that house hold and circle of friends. My own father ran a businesses, but he had trouble with some of the computer based task in the business, so he left it to me. I left the rest to him. He was handy, I'm not. This was also helpful for figuring out what I might do in the working world. Browser games were too but that's a whole other story.

Having established a place with in the family it becomes possible to pivot to getting good at that one thing you can do to get money. The less task you can do on your own, the better at the one task you can do you will need to be, in order to hire the servants need to handle those other task. It's a tough equation, that can destroy NT and Autistic alike.

So what if someone doesn't have that starting point of friends and family, what if a person just can't get good enough at that one task to hire all the servants, and what if the market for the one thing that person is good at suddenly bottoms out?

Then it's on us. We're an autistic family. It's the duty of the more independent among us to pull our more dependent brothers and sisters up, assisting them in any way we can, and if you think of that as a patronizing attempt to lord my superiority over others then by all means, take your revenge on me.

I will be dependent again someday. Use that time to claim superiority over me, to feel better than me as you help me. I promise. I will be grateful.

Besides most paperwork, I can do anything for myself. Though I don't drive or have a job.

Now if someone is asking me to do a task for them, I usually have issues with it.

But if it's something I'm doing for myself I don't have any problems.

This concept does have a decent logic to it.

I'm very high functioning (I was actually first diagnosed with OCD, ADHD, and several other anxiety based disorders) so I've been able to do all of the factual stuff on my own. By that I mean driving, taxes, voting, applying for jobs. All of that is just being damn good at paperwork.

But some more emotional skills I've failed to develop like others. I'm poor at dealing with criticism or insults. I'm slow to figure things out when I'm not interested in them. I have an extremely poor work ethic if I don't like or am afraid of something, and I've been manipulated by other people more times than I can remember. No matter how independent I get, I can't limit the excessive amount of information.

There's more logic to add too! Since you don't have a job, have you ever thought about making money with YouTube videos? Sure it might seem like it's impossible with just a handful of subscribers but you already took that next step while others like us would not even dream about being on camera let alone online for the whole world to see.

Pretty much all you need to do is find your niche to make any hint of money.

My gap in work history is so long that I doubt anyone will ever make the mistake of hiring my dumbfuck worthless corpse


With practice I could learn cooking, home repair, computer skills.

But driving happens more in real time . So seriously doubt I could ever drive like a standard driver

Too many things going on

I do not need assistance with my leisure activities like spending time on computer, listening to music, watching TV, & playing vid games thou I do appreciate company. I do not need assistance taking a shower & washing my hair thou I can forget to do it without someone reminding me cuz I don't do it everyday. I don't need assistance brushing my teeth. I don't need assistance eating. I don't need assistance getting dressed.

I need assistance with my income & health care due to being disabled; I'm on SSDI & Medicare & Medicaid Extra Help. I have worked in the past & can again but I need assistance getting the rite part time job so I won't lose my benefits; my girlfriend can not handle me being gone a long time due to anxiety & depression issues so I cant work a full time job nowadays thou I've done it in the past. I need help with paperwork due to my dyslexia & bad handwriting. I need help with cooking due to my dyslexia, ADD, low vision that includes some colorblindness, & a tremor disorder. I need help going out sometimes cuz I can get directions confused very easily due to my dyslexia & ADD & I can get bus stops confused. I cant drive due to my low vision & problems focusing so I need public transportation or for someone to bring me there & back if the place isn't close enough to walk. I have a hard time shaving my face sometimes due to low vision & a tremor disorder so I often ask my girlfriend to do it cuz it's easier; I can do it myself but I'm more likely to do a messier job; I have no problems shaving my crotch thou. I have a hard time remembering things so I need my girlfriend to remind me of things. I can floss alittle with the stick kind but I need someone else to do a good job & get my back teeth.

Things I can do independently:

Drive
Hold a job (just part time, but with increasing variety in my daily duties)
Go to social activities based on things I enjoy (Toastmasters, tennis)
Do small everyday things around the house

I am far more independent than I thought I ever would be, but am nowhere near where I should be at my age. I don't know if I will ever catch up.