When people bring up my body language what do they expect?

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This may sound a bit odd, but I will tell you what works well for me. I emulate happy dog faces, smile, look up and down with your eyes, make quick eye contact, smile and keep walking.

Most people find dog expressions to be adorable, disarming and comforting. I have a few of doggy expressions. One of my favorites is happy beagle face, after a little beagle that stole a sniff and poked my leg with a cold nose.

Think of it as method acting, use something that makes you happy and try it on when you have to interact.

These sound like people with worthless opinions who should be ignored. It’s way too much work and effort to try and fit other’s view of “proper.”

I would ignore them and go do something you enjoy.

One of the things that popped up to me as I was reading this topic and the responses to the question was how it's funny that we misread other people's social cues and a they read our social cues.

I remember when I used to go to alcoholics anonymous sometimes after a meeting there would be a guy outside inviting people to coffee or food or whatever and I could be standing right next to this person in would never be invited. I would always have to invite myself which is not frowned upon in Alcoholics Anonymous but still it would have been nice to be invited when you're inviting everyone else. Then I read somewhere and I probably do this without even knowing you're doing it is my body language probably is being read as not interested and would not be receptive to going out. So maybe one of the things that I have to learn is and because others misread me just like I misread them that I may need to take the initiative like I did and invite myself. Maybe even explain the people on the side and tell them how interested I am and going out.

Just like you could with your friends I would agree that practicing it is a very good thing so you see more open to people around you but at the same time you can also explain to those around you if you're comfortable that you have autism and what made you look like an angry face is not you being angry it's just your natural resting face. And they may be able to understand you better.