How have you changed since joining this forum?

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You are Marknis. You work in a library. Your mother is kind of a pain in the butt; she doesn't want you to grow, really. You tend not to be optimistic. You believe the people around your area are mostly rednecks or hip-hoppers.

If only you could just take the plunge....and be friends with us....and realize that most people aren't rednecks or hip-hoppers. Even many of the rednecks and hip-hoppers grow out of at least some of it by the time they leave their 20's.

I'm sure there's some nice stuff that happens in your life. Stuff that makes you laugh. You probably have lots of mesquites in your area. And there's Lake Travis.

I've learned how to be a more supportive person through WP.

I don't know if I've "changed," in essence, though.

I've had people gently disagree with me. And not-so-gently disagree with me. I've learned how to stand up to myself. People should really seek to stand up for themselves, rather than let themselves be taken advantage of.

I've had times when I was tempted to leave WP when I was attacked----but, then, I thought about it---and realize that, most of the time, it isn't "me." And even if it was "me," that shouldn't prevent me from relating to people here on WP, and in the wider world, too.

I have learned that people don't want to be around people they feel sorry for---unless they are absolute nurturers by nature. They certainly didn't want to be around me when I felt sorry for myself.

I used to feel sorry for myself a lot when I was younger. I used to throw tantrums if I lost a game as a child. Or when someone would call me names.

People didn’t want to be around me then. They wanted me to go away.

People used to go “ewww!” to my face, and walk away.

why any mind to the type of people who are disrespectful to you?

People talked crap about me over my years on WP. It doesn't bother me as much as it used to. It really bothered me my first five years.

My resistance to criticism has increased. I used to feel anger and shame whenever someone would criticize me (Thanks, Dad!).



Now it's just a minor annoyance, and I can carry on as if nothing happened.



But I still remember ... oh, how I remember ...

I have become less naive being on this site as I was before, I have grown to be more patient than I was before. I'm more open-minded about what determines who has autism and who doesn't.

I have changed for worse though. With autism I'm now more confused about it than before. My empathy for people is slowly declining(but I think that's the internet in general...), I sometimes feel more alone than before because I feel I don't seem to fit in with the community interests(which tends to be mostly about technology).

More mood swings mostly