Do you type or write better than you speak?

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I type the same way that I speak. My accent seems to show up in my typing. I type very differently from the majority of people on WP.

A thought has come to me as my mum may be on the TV, which in the past has not gone too well as she freezes up, but for some reason, the times I have been on TV (Apart from the first time which was ever so embarissing!) I find I am ok. I have never seen myself on TV though as when on live or nearly live TV one can't nip home to watch oneself! (Mind you, I am not sure if I want to see myself or not. It may be a wierd sensation almost like looking in the mirror).
Anyway. I thought I would share my thoughts.

Yes, when I have time to think through my words they tend to be put together better.

I am semiverbal by choice. Verbal speech requires a lot of physical and emotional energy for me, so I conserve it by writing on my boogie board jot (small portable electronic blackboard) or typing on my iPad. I'm very good at public speaking and do it at least once a semester when I go to my local community college to lecture on autism to the abnormal and neuropsych classes there, but it drains me for the rest of the day.

In social situations, it can take me a while to find the words I want to answer questions. I have to stop and think for anywhere from five to thirty seconds or more at a time in order to construct my sentence in my head and find the words I want to use. I have a pin on the lanyard of my chewy necklace that says, "I'm autistic; please give me a moment to respond". This lets other people know that I'm not ignoring them, and I don't need them to repeat the question (this makes it worse) I just need them to be patient and give me a little bit of time to answer.

To answer the general question, I'm far more eloquent when I write than when I speak.

Pretty much yes. I hate my voice and stutter. I was always criticized by my mother for being too "monotone" or "loud" and it caused me to hate my voice and not want to use it. It's like words don't want to come out of my mouth. I learned how to repeat things I heard from TV and movies or read in books and basically everything I say verbally is something I heard somewhere else. I don't have my "own words" I have to borrow them from someone else. But with writing, I can find my own words easily.

When I am talking in person I tend not to say very much. Very short sentences. I lot of times I will answer yes or no. When I go-to the doctor I need someone with me to talk to him for me as I can't think of the proper response.
When I am typing I have more time to gather my thoughts and edit wording that needs to be fixed. I have always struggled with language on putting words together in a sentence also
My handwriting looks as it is done by a 6 year olds. When I have to fill out forms I wonder if I am taking seriously as they probably can't read it and think it was written by a little child

Don't hate your voice. It is a blessing when you speak. Your poor mum would be heartbroken if you were not able to speak at all, so don't be too concerned. It is your mums way to see if she can help you a little.
Out of curiosity, I have heard people with a monotone voice and I would like to ask you something just out of curiosity. Ars you ok with singing? I mean... Can you sing? It is just my mind thinking. Please don't be offended. I am just curious as the few people I have met who also have monotone voices. When they laugh their voice does change tone but it has just come to me that I have not heard them sing. One nice young man with such a voice was an ex girlfriends son. He has autism and his mum has asperges. His mum (A beautiful lady who's friendship I really miss)... Well when I ended the dating as something inside of me felt that she was not the one for me (I can't explain... Is a squashed or trapped feeling even though I dearly loved her... Trapped because she really loved me but I felt deep inside that it was not the right lady...), well the really good thing was that I was very concerned that she was ok, and a mutual online friend.. I introduced them. They are married now.
Anyway. Sorry. Am talking round the world and back. Grr. Why can't I just stick to the point? Carry on everybody.

I highly doubt that. My mother would find it a blessing if I couldn't speak. She's always snapping at me about how "loud" I am and that I'm giving her a migraine. I once even heard her tell me she wished I was more disabled so I would be more entitled to SSI money.

Writing is the best medium for auties, imo.
Yes, I communicate better in writing.

I am certainly a better writer. But I speak well too.

Yes, I do. I sometimes don't know what to say even in writing, but I never have the issue of having the right words and being unable to write/type them like I sometimes have with speaking. And like many have said, the extra time helps me be much more articulate. I would try using a text-to-speech app on my phone instead of speaking because it's so much easier, but I still live with my parents and no matter how much I try to explain my speech issues to them, they absolutely forbid it for some reason.

Quite a lot, yes. I find people tend to assume they've understood me when I communicate verbally but they haven't.

Yes, I am much better at writing than speaking. I need time to process. I never walk away from a spontaneous conversation feeling like I said what I wanted to say. With a few close friends at least I can text/email back later and say, "what I actually meant was..." Everyone else thinks I am not smart until we interact in writing. A few conversations I can handle are meetings with an agenda and purpose, lectures where I have a speech and answers to questions are predictable, hanging out in a situation where I have been able to think ahead about what we might talk about.

Absolutely, I type or write better than I speak. The biggest difference is that I can't stutter or talk too loud when I type or write. When I speak, it can be embarrassing for me. Sometimes, I say things that are awkward or not appropriate. So, I'd much rather communicate through typing or writing.

I think he means objectively not subjectively. I don't think he means which you prefer doing.
Me personally, i used to be worse at typing adnb etter at speaking now whenever i speak for more than a few sentences especially if i'm reading aloud it just get's all muddled. Same thing happens with my typing too. It's probably something to do with my dysgraphia also have struggled with speech in the past but as far as i am aware not like that.
I mean subjectively i prefer it but. I used to be really good at public speaking now i can't do it at all. As for writing. My writing is worse than all three as i suffer from the same things that happen to my typing mixing up spelling and stuff like that combined with my handwriting which even if i practice all the time is at best hardly legible but i do enjoy it more. So like subjectively Writing > Typing > Speaking
but objectively Typing> Speaking > Writing I feel like you should be mixing.

I don't think so. My writing is like my talking most of the time. Unless it's about something more technical, like I need to use lots of business jargon. I can write like that, but I don't talk like that. I think I express myself best with talking.